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  1. Even if we take seriously the rather outdated division of people into introverts and extroverts, it is hardly worth considering introversion as a vice. This is a characteristic set by nature, which is based on certain features (not pathologies, features) of the” device ” of the human nervous system. You can't fix it, and you don't need to.

    Consider yourself subhuman due to the fact that an introvert is definitely not worth it. This is the same as considering yourself subhuman because you have blue / brown / gray eyes. What has grown has grown. And from the point of view of evolution, everything is also normal: conditional introverts are no worse than conditional extroverts reproduce and leave offspring, therefore, they are needed by nature, as long as it allows them to do so.

    Mass culture is sharpened for people who are called extroverts. It is understandable, this category can sell the most-goods, services, impressions. But this is about economics and marketing, not about physiology and evolution.

    By the way, do not confuse the presence in the character of a person of traits that belong to the field of introversion, with the usual inability to build communication. Now, for some reason, it is fashionable to call it social phobia. You can learn to communicate calmly and easily. Forcing yourself to enjoy hanging out and socializing with strangers is not.

  2. Certainly.

    Of course, it does.

    Although yes, you are an introvert in what sense? In the “modern” or Jungian style?

    How do you understand this?..

    According to Jung, this is a clear evolutionary advantage for you as a human being. More creativity. More awareness. Increased ability to self-develop. Understanding its value (as you demonstrate with your question).

    Of course, you have other qualities, so do not be deceived =))

    ..and if in “modern”, do not worry at all. This is bullshit, it doesn't really mean anything, and it doesn't have any personality characteristics it is not. Psychotype even more so.

    Just not being able to communicate. It's not so much a lack of skill as a lack of experience. Diversify your communication, find those who you like, tell more; in general, live more actively — and quickly become the same “extrovert” as most (or even cooler)

    This can be useful in any case, even if you are really an introvert. Communication develops the mind and senses.

    However, you will no longer be considered special (in this sense) — and no one but a psychoanalyst will be able to determine “who” you are. But it's not a big loss for an introvert, is it?..

    P.S. By the way. Just in case you don't know. Introversion (according to Jung) does not interfere with communication in any way. As well as effective work, career, achievement of external goals, etc., etc.

    It's just that for an introvert, this is all irrelevant. As well as the question of whether it has any advantage over others.

  3. There are two traps here that are hard to get out of:

    1. Often introverts call themselves quite normal balanced people who have both characteristics.

    But when repeated attempts to find yourself in a team are punished by rudeness or rudeness (or more often – by ignoring), then a person can give up and stick to the label “I'm just an introvert”.

    1. A person who hears from his elders from childhood that he is bad and has no prospects of meeting parental expectations, as well as growing up in a family where they constantly complain about life, gets used to living the same way.

    And he falls into the trap of the “dying pit” from which it is becoming more difficult to get out every day, because around you in this pit are people with the same negative thinking, with whom it is clear and familiar. He himself is used to automatically find topics for conversation in negative areas and feel like a fish in water in such conversations.

    And to go to a camp where people with positive thinking live is scary and unusual. You just don't know how to communicate with them. Like a fish beating on dry land.

    It's very hard to get out of this. How to learn to ride a bike-you need to overcome your fear and try, fall and try, until habits themselves teach you to hold the steering wheel correctly and at the same time with your hands – pedal with your feet, and not fall.

  4. I don't think it's something bad, it's your mental structure. You like calmness and being alone, what's wrong with that? Admittedly, I'm also an introvert, but I don't make a problem out of it.

  5. Introversion is a way of charging, not a mistake. Advantage: time for yourself. An introvert can also be highly sociable. Someone is much easier to relax alone and so there are a lot of people. But I haven't met any true extroverts.

  6. First, understand that this is an inevitability! You are who you are, it's not cut out. Some people spend their entire lives trying to cut off a slice of themselves and throw it away. Perhaps someone succeeds – I do not undertake to answer for everyone. But is it really worth the time?�

    From the point of view of evolution and tede and tepe… Still what use! We have the best chance of survival. We're not naturally too attached to communities, so we're not too caught up in politics, mass unrest, or just weird interest groups) Introverts are more independent of other people's society. Isolation is easier to tolerate. Therefore, if a zombie apocalypse happens or you wake up all alone in the world, you will go crazy much longer than extroverts) And we are much less extroverted, so we are an exotic and scarce product)

    Have you come to terms with the fact that you are an introvert? Now exhale. Because it's not as meaningful as you think it is. Introversion-extroversion is an innate property, it is based on the human temperament: sanguine, melancholic and two more. If you're interested, Google it. The bottom line is that this is what we get at birth.

    It is only after birth and up to now that His Majesty's Upbringing and His Grace's Experience happen to us. This is what makes you so much more than an innate temperament. It is not for nothing that there are concepts of character, personality, and the structure of personality organization.�

    I remembered an argument with a young teacher on this topic. I strongly disagree with the fact that temperament affects a person's life path, but does not determine it. And I very much disagree with her opinion. I didn't even have any arguments, the argument was so ridiculous and my opinion was so obvious.�

    And now I don't agree. I don't want to write about cool introverted geniuses. I don't remember their last names, but there seem to be a lot of writers and probably artists there. I'm not a writer and I've never been an artist, and I don't have the gift to be one of them. So when someone talks about great introverts, it sounds to me like a consolation to a terminally ill person. And I don't consider myself that way.

    People with whom I don't interact too closely are very surprised when it comes to the fact that I am an introvert. Yes, that there are friends, my girlfriend for a long time did not believe. And there is one annoying problem: many people have a rather perverse understanding of introverts. I don't know what they're thinking, but they're already looking at me strangely. Either with apprehension, or with sympathy. As to the same patient.

    I don't see myself as such. It's just that I'm much less in need of communication with other people than most. Note: “I need less”, and I don't hate people or don't need them at all. When I had enough time alone, I became more aware of my own need for company. Spending time with other people has become a pleasure!�

    At the same time, I do not force myself with useless things from my point of view: gatherings with friends, active recreation, the obligation to be an immensely happy person.�

    If I don't want to talk, I don't say anything. If I don't want to listen, I don't listen – it's easy and many introverts will understand me: it can be more interesting in our head than with the other person)) If I'm sad, I frown, even if it's 3 weeks in each month and I don't see it as a problem. Refusal to abuse yourself solved the problem with energy reserves-previously, I was depressed for a third of the month, I was moving away from it for another third, and I worked somehow for a third; “somehow” by the beginning of the new month turned into productive work, and then the circle was closed by a new depression. Now I live more or less evenly, and even if I can't do well, I can work well.

    When I stopped recognizing myself as “not so” or “different” or “broken”, and really understood something about myself, my introversion ceased to be a problem.

    It is far from certain that my story will help you. And I'm not trying to help you with my story. I suggest you get to know yourself better. What is so unbearable about who you are?Is it really bad for you to be like this, or is it uncomfortable for others? Ask yourself questions, look for answers in yourself. And the labels “introvert”, “extrovert”, “subhuman”, “lazy” and others simply cover up the complexities of life that you have not yet decided to open even to yourself.

  7. In order to consider yourself subhuman, you need to be Hitler or Stalin. An introvert is not in danger of anything like this. Except that there may be minor problems in the job interview.

  8. Manipulations of people, self-interest, cunning, the ability to negotiate will certainly help to survive in difficult circumstances. But we are still human beings. Other priorities besides basic instincts are also important for us , such as love, creativity, and so on. Therefore, each person is different, interesting, complex, amazing, and everything else does not matter much. You can adapt. learning from your fellow animals. Argue.

  9. About a third of humanity is introverted. Simply put, introversion or extroversion is defined by how the brain responds to certain neurotransmitters, and which areas of the brain they primarily stimulate. This, in turn, determines the ability to process information, the value system, mannerism, lifestyle, etc. The evolutionary advantage and value of introverts lies in the fact that they are generally distinguished by strategic thinking, intelligence, and outstanding analytical and creative abilities, while at the same time being socially and emotionally more stable, or, simply put, sane, as well as morally stable, empathic, and selfless – in comparison with extroverts in general, who also have positive aspects and their role in evolution…but the question wasn't about them, was it?:)

  10. Introversion is a side quality that doesn't affect you as a person. I'm an introvert and I'll try to explain how I feel about this.

    How to stop considering yourself subhuman? And why did you decide that at all? What makes you” subhuman ” is your dullness of mind, not your behavior, disability, or anything else.For example, I do not consider Stephen Hawking a “subhuman”, although he seems to be suitable.

    introversion is a feature, not a disadvantage, but often an advantage. What if I told you that about half of the people you know are introverts? People like: Lincoln, Darwin, Buffett, Bill Gates. — they're all introverts. Introverts love solitude, and as a result, self-development. Introverts prepare well. If you're an introvert, you know what it's like to rehearse a speech in front of a waitress 🙂

    In general, this is also a great opportunity to deal with your fears. At one time, I was so afraid to interact with strangers that it was a serious problem for me to go alone without training to the Lacoste boutique. I'd walk out of there literally sweating and my heart pounding. And it was a wonderful opportunity to fight this fear. Thinking of an introvert as “subhuman” is like thinking of a woman as a natural cook)

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