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  1. Good afternoon.

    Great question!

    Fear of communication with peers in adolescence and young age and even in adulthood is not a rare phenomenon, you are not alone. Many of your peers and adults can tell you about similar experiences in the past or experienced a state in the current time.

    To figure out what to do, you should first consider what is behind the fear of communicating with peers, i.e. you should try to decipher it, consider its form, composition, let's say.

    So, what can be behind such fear (I note that I do not know your life story, so I write in general):

    1. fear of evaluation
    2. fear of criticism
    3. feelings of incongruity in something else
    4. personality traits: shyness, shyness, shyness, insecurity, introversion, anxiety, excessive demands on yourself and expectations of yourself
    5. feeling as if others are better than me (hence devaluing yourself, your merits, achievements, abilities, abilities, skills)
    6. the habit of suppressing, hiding your feelings, considering that their direct manifestation is inappropriate
    7. not ready to accept rejection or to turn around unexpected events, people's reactions

    An important role is played by the presence of communication skills, the ability to interact in different ways in different conditions. Of course, the key role in the formation of such skills belongs to the family. Not in all families, parents and adults set the task of developing the child's communication skills and providing him with a diverse arsenal of interaction tools. Not all parents have these skills themselves. Not all parents need it. Everyone has their own stories, their own values, and so on. So blaming your parents is not the best option, it's just important to understand that we are all different and feel our needs differently.

    You have yourself for yourself. You can set yourself the task of assigning various means of communication (verbal, non-verbal), developing communication skills. To do this, you need to work out what is behind your fear.

    You didn't specify your age. If you find yourself in the period of adolescence, I recommend that you study the information on group psychological trainings of a well-known psychologist, Professor of Moscow State University Alexander Georgievich Leaders. You can also study the general information about such communication trainings and choose the one that corresponds to your preferences and values. Good luck!

  2. Fears are the results of mental injuries that you have received. Maybe it was a long time ago, and your brain “forgot”them. But the body “remembers” everything. You need to “work through” them and “reboot” your brain (by analogy, as a computer is rebooted). You can resort to the help of a psychologist.

    It is also necessary to take into account individual character traits.

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