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  1. There is a hunger for love in the world. At the same time, it is scary to admit your hunger for love, because it is dangerous to be vulnerable. There is a fear that vulnerability is being used to harm you. To compensate for their hunger for love, while maintaining the illusion of invulnerability, people's minds come up with many ways to manipulate others or replace love with something similar. Illness is one of the ways to attract attention to yourself, to chain those who feel guilty. This allows you to feel less lonely and somehow cover up the hunger for love. Although this is rather patching up holes, so the problem is not solved. And people are looking for more and more new ways of manipulation and surrogates.

  2. The author does not claim to be professional, treat the text as entertaining, nothing more.
    As the professionals themselves say, the norm is a stretchable concept, therefore pathologies can be considered a variant of the norm. In the modern world, there is such an expression in everyday life as “if we all go to a psychologist now, then everyone has no-no, but there are diseases” (a real example from life, occurred in a situation when he himself faced difficulties). But there is one caveat. Given the situation in modern society, the consciousness and psyche of most people is deformed more than ever. Information overload, stress, manipulation by the public and the media, uncertainty about the future, etc.
    All this can be viewed from different points of view. The role is played by the difference between generations and the peculiarities of the relationship between them (due to the same pace of life, generations with intervals of five years are strikingly different). I belong to the generation of “millennials”, but then there are completely different names, no less interesting and funny.
    Science does not sit still, but often ordinary people are engaged in excessive self-reflection. I fully agree with the opinions of angry peers and older people about people who, due to their elementary incompetence, often confuse the state of short-term depression with a clinical diagnosis, which differs by a simple sign-if your condition is not characterized by vital longing (existential crisis, loss of meaning in life) and a slight decrease in performance (seasonal beriberi, fatigue, lack of sleep – which can nevertheless lead to violations, suicidal thoughts, a desire to harm yourself and As we can see, all this falls into two categories: socially dangerous and non-dangerous behavior. An atmosphere of tension is created and fertile ground for hypochondria – excessive concentration on your physical and mental state. In many cases, a short conversation with a free psychologist, rest, thoughtful viewing of good movies, reading the same worthy books, good sunny weather, going out into nature, or even just being in a favorable public place (not in a club or similar institutions) helps. Remember that in our world, there are competent specialists who can take care of any of your questions, otherwise you run the risk of really ruining the nerves of yourself and others.
    P.S. To the question of my competence – a busy childhood, constant curiosity that goes beyond all boundaries, preparation for admission to clinical psychology from the age of 16. But, nevertheless, there was a sharp change in the course towards IT (but the craving and curiosity remained). And some other confessional reasons that are not worth talking about, but can be easily found out.

  3. Because today it is much easier to be pseudo-complex than a simple person. Because it's “fashionable, cool, modern” or whatever it is. And you need to explain your' complexity ' with something. Well, another window dressing with the expectation of all sorts of attention.

  4. It seems to me that there is a direct correlation with the stereotype: “all creative people are a little “banutye”, it is easier to adopt some external sign than to make efforts to become a smarter or more creative person.

    The second reason may be, as mentioned above, a way to attract attention.

    And the third reason is an easy way to find individuality. It's a template approach, because finding your own identity means listening to yourself every day, being able to face your personal problems, and being able to speak honestly to yourself.

    In general, all of the above is just a desire to go the easy way. The desire to appear more important ( smarter, more interesting, and more mysterious) 🔮

  5. I left the army with Zoey, made up a diagnosis, and left. Here's an alternative explanation for why. Actually a very useful thing:3 (what else can I write for 140 characters?)

  6. I will answer from the point of view of transaction analysis.

    Indeed, a person has a need for social interaction – at the top of this category is the aforementioned love, at the lowest – quarrels, swearing and other destructive ways to attract attention. An individual resorts to them when there is no hope of receiving love, but also banal acceptance and respect from anyone – that is, when the main task in communication is to declare their existence and get at least a little attention.

    Such tasks are solved by initiating games and participating in them. The game is a special form of interaction among people in which everyone participates to meet the needs of their unconscious (in the sense of self-importance, a sense of power, etc.). One of the most popular games described by E. Byrne and systematized Karpman as “Karpman's triangle” – and participate in it, usually three parties: the persecutor, victim and rescuer.

    The victim's position is what interests us now. The motivation to join games for victims is simple – it is the need for attention, care (which is what we started with, namely with “social hunger“), and the way to manifest your role is to manifest your defenselessness, inferiority, and need for”salvation”. Sooner or later, the “victim” has its own “rescuer”, who feels the need for self-affirmation at the expense of “helping the poor and wretched”. As such, salvation is not really part of their plans – and the victims do not need it…

    But let's return to our case of attributing mental problems to ourselves…

    It's a fairly simple and effective way to seem like such a special person, full of secrets and mysteries – and, as everyone will suspect, driven to such a state by some traumatic experience. If not pity and support, then at least attention to such “players” is provided with a high probability – which feeds them in itself.

    Claude Steiner, a student of Bern, compared such interaction patterns to satisfying hunger with leftovers and outright garbage-in general… It is better not to fall for the bait of such characters, because you will be involved in a game on someone else's field, where you will eventually be made guilty – a cyclical game, which is much more difficult to leave than to get into it…

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