Why is it difficult for some people to deal with their problems?
I would like to get an answer from the point of view of psychology. Let me clarify that it is advisable in the context of this issue to consider not any special cases, but average people. I understand that the ability to solve and persevere with problems depends on the conditions of upbringing and genetics, but I still wonder to what extent a person's life is really "in his hands". I often find it difficult to understand why a person can't do something that he or she personally expresses as desirable (quit smoking, drink alcohol, close a session, get a job). I have always believed that the only reason for this behavior is unwillingness, but over time I think that maybe a person really can not do something and he may really need support. What is your opinion on this?
First, some people do not have the necessary social skills and abilities to solve life's problems. Second, there is a lack of social support, i.e., a lack of social support. Third, people may not yet be ready for changes and, despite the obvious consequences of problematic behavior for an outsider, for example, the negative impact on health, relationships with loved ones, the benefits of problematic behavior may exceed the possible consequences, for example, overeating and being overweight protect a person from the need to enter into intimate relationships with the opposite sex. Also, the problem in a person's perception can be so complex, and the number of unsuccessful attempts to solve it is so great, that the person and his environment do not consider it possible to solve it.
For many reasons. The main reason is that he can't. If a child is not taught something, then he may not learn it. Например https://onedio.ru/news/v-rezultate-etogo-chudovishnogo-eksperimenta-nad-detmi-mnogie-iz-nih-perestali-govorit-voobshe-28291
As far as the parents were able to prepare the child for adulthood, so he copes with it.