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  1. Thinking less of yourself is about as harmful as thinking better of yourself (both are illusions). Here's where the mind comes in! Why make yourself more painful by thinking less of yourself, why fall into illusions? The worst thing is for someone who humiliates or tries to humiliate, because he most likely has a clouded mind, an inflated ego and mental abnormalities, he probably got it, and takes it out on those who are not involved-this, unfortunately, is the norm. You can only defend yourself by not attacking. “I don't agree with what you think of me,” period!!! yuuuu

  2. Let me answer in order:

    1. No. No one has the right to humiliate you or other people. If you are humiliated, you have the right to defend yourself. And no matter what anyone tells you, this self-defense can include both verbal and physical resistance to humiliation (depending, of course, on what they manifest themselves in).

    2. Humiliation makes anyone feel and think bad about themselves. This is how our psyche works, because we are originally primates, belong to the animal world, and in the animal world, an animal expelled from the pack often died (the body itself gave the command to self-destruct). Therefore, this trait of ours, inherited by us from animals, cannot be a criterion for us (because in addition to the animal, we also have the proper human in us). This has nothing to do with being”well-deserved.” In general, my point of view is that only punishment can be deserved, but not humiliation. There is a huge difference between punishment and humiliation – punishment is normally aimed at the awareness of the punished person of the wrongness of their actions, humiliation is aimed at mocking this person regardless of her actions. If you are humiliated by any punishment-this is already a yes, then we need to deal with you. But if you see that you are being humiliated, but not punished, then this already says a lot about those who do this to you. By the way, the features that distinguish punishment from humiliation also include the fact that punishment is usually carried out by those who have legal (legal) power over a person – parents, teachers at school, the boss at work, finally law enforcement agencies and the court. Each time this power is not absolute, it is limited and bound by certain rules (morals and the law), all these people have the right to punish you within their powers (see above – not to humiliate, but to punish). Now let's look at the following examples : a group of friends, a group of bullies, a group of colleagues at work, and law enforcement officers in their spare time. All these people have no right to punish you, because they do not have such a right under the law. Any” punishment ” on the part of these groups of people is essentially humiliation, because on their part it will be arbitrary. From a moral point of view, they have the right to punish you only if you yourself gave them this right – for example, if in the company of friends you all made a certain promise to each other, and then you personally broke it – friends have the moral right to punish you – to refuse to communicate with you, to exclude you from their company. But even then, this is more likely not a punishment, but “termination of an unspoken contract.”�

    PS In the end, of course, I do not know what to advise you. But you have already understood the point – the first thing to do is to separate the punishment from the humiliation. Then determine whether a given person / group of people has a legal or moral right to punish you. And only then think about the” deserved “or” undeserved ” punishment, while remembering that no one has the right to humiliate you and never – even if you are a prisoner in prison.

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