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  1. Friedrich Nietzsche once said:

    “Anything that doesn't kill us makes us stronger.”

    I want to use these words as the basis for my answer. In my understanding, human life is a school of the spirit, that is, a place where we gain experience, wisdom, mature as self-sufficient individuals, and give other souls a chance to follow the same path.

    And in my opinion, suffering is not a necessary attribute of life. If you master a sufficient level of wisdom, it can be avoided. Since ancient times, this has been taught by various religious and philosophical trends, and in the last century, science has also taken up the development of high-quality tools and methodology.

    For this reason, having children means giving them the joy of life, experiencing happiness from being together, overcoming difficulties and pains.

    Their suffering and frustration are only one side of the scale. The other is all those moments of joy, happiness, love, joint discoveries and achievements, all the good things that will happen to them in this life. And I believe that this second cup will be significantly larger and fuller than the first.

  2. On the secular side, I don't really understand what it is, but on this side it's better not to be born yourself.

    Jokes are jokes, but morality and ethics are not allies of biology and evolution, but more often the worst enemies, although the latter usually prevail.

    Here, in this context, the word”ethics” sounds like an excuse for either one's own weakness, lack of determination and weak will or selfishness, as in Childfree.

  3. What a global issue! You often hear these options: “Why breed poverty?”, ” Why breed disabled people?” But in general, everyone should assess the extent of their suffering, and decide whether to transfer such a share to their child. Only without sectarianism, because you can earn money, and you can fight diseases.

    Nothing brings a person more joy and pride than good children.

  4. From the point of view of being, it doesn't matter how you live your life — in suffering or joy. There is an option to learn how to get high not only from positive emotions, but also to feel all the features of suffering, they are also cool in their own way. But without questioning the duality of our world, this is difficult to do.

  5. Life is random! And it does not mean that if a person was born out of a well-off family, he will suffer….. Many factors, health, abilities…. I remember the deputy.chairman of a very large and respected committee in St. Petersburg. For me, it was a revelation that a person from an orphanage… He is quite happy with his life. Beautiful, successful….I also know of a case where an excellent student from a well-to-do family killed his parents because of a difference of opinion…Different people are born, both scientists and non-scientists… Both happy and unhappy.. If you don't try and give birth, you'll never know if your child will be happy…And if we also assume that there is an afterlife and the person born is quite likely to have a good future in the other world, then in general the question of birth or non-birth disappears…

  6. I thought about this question 7-8 years ago and came to the unequivocal conclusion that this is not ethical. Since then, I have not changed my point of view, although I have repeatedly returned to this issue, but neither I myself nor anyone else has been able to give a clear argument in favor of having children. Life is a lottery in which you put yourself at stake, but this bet is made for you by someone else, someone who can not guarantee you anything.

  7. Why is life full of suffering? Because of immoral immoral boors, and if you bring up your children as highly moral personalities , then there is a sense.

  8. No matter how hard you try, the experience of raising children is passed on to you from those who raised you. And not only him. When talking to people, I always ask who raised them and how – it turned out that this has a very big impact on the formation of personality. It is very difficult to get a man to share his experiences if he was raised by his father. If on the contrary-no one likes whiners. So think: can you provide children with a comprehensive and harmonious development, are you ready for this, if you are a woman, are you ready to endure pregnancy, that a real person will crawl out of you, postpartum depression, and so on.�

    No one does it well alone. And don't have children when you are too young and impulsive – I don't know any examples where young parents were able to raise a harmonious personality.

    Again, this is subjective, my point of view is only mine.

  9. Your suffering is a lesson you haven't learned, a resource you haven't understood, and a resource you haven't used. These are ancient fears and subconscious beliefs given to you by your parents (think of your relationship with your mom and dad). This was passed down from generation to generation until one of the descendants did not curb this “negative” energy, turning it to their advantage. Who knows, maybe it is your son or daughter who will be able to untie this knot. Do not deprive him of this opportunity.

  10. He answered a similar question: “Arthur Schopenhauer argued that the value of life is ultimately negative, because any positive experiences will always be outweighed by suffering, since it is a stronger experience. He believed that if a person has at least some sympathy for future generations, then he will not throw the burden of existence on them. To produce offspring is, in a sense, to subject them to inevitable suffering.”

    David Benatar believed that every newly created person is doomed to suffer in advance, even if his living conditions will continuously improve. His argument is based on the following premises:

    (1) The presence of suffering is evil.

    (2) Having pleasure is a blessing.

    (3) The absence of suffering is a blessing, even if that blessing is not experienced by anyone.

    (4) The absence of pleasure is not an evil if there is no one for whom this absence of pleasure is a loss.�

    So there is a point of view that it is not ethical at all.

  11. In my opinion, this is not an ethical question, but a philosophical one. You will ask yourself if you would like your parents to give you life if you could choose. I think that no matter what, you would have chosen life. Whether or not to have children is a personal choice for everyone. Of course, it is necessary to be aware of the responsibility to your own child and prepare him for the fact that life is difficult and it is often necessary to suffer, but at the same time life is so beautiful sometimes that it seems to be worth living.

  12. I'll be brief. I consider it unethical to have children if you are not sure that you will be able to raise a person who will be able to get around these sufferings and who will be happy to live. And here the question is not even in finances, although they also play a role.

  13. Even if you look from the secular side of the issue, not everything is so bad in our “communal apartment”.)

    My answer probably won't appeal to everyone. Therefore, I will immediately write that everything here is individual and depends on the attitude to life.

    Experience is the only thing that is improved by people + years = generations! Accordingly, if you teach children, treat them as adults, and do not” lisp ” and ask them as adults( if you do not know something or do not know how – learn), then they will suffer less failures, suffer, cry in the armpit of mom, blow their nose in a T-shirt to dad.) It is unethical to give birth to children and hand them over for training in kindergartens, then to schools and not engage with the child independently( not to transfer experience to him), and then wonder why he suffers and nothing happens.

    Summary: �If you teach a child to learn constantly and give him a superpower “like water from a goose”, then everything will be “O. K.”

    A question from the same field: “Is it ethical to send your son to the army, if you yourself served and know that this is firsthand?” I think it's a rhetorical question.

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