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  1. Old age = wisdom?

    “Comparing yourself to others through bipolar evaluation turns out to be the main mechanism of social perception. The peculiarities of an individual's self-consciousness are a reference point for such a comparison. The process of attributing grades and traits is called personification. In F.'s researchFiedler found that the greater the bipolarity of assessments, the more categorical the subject is in his decisions, conclusions and judgments, prone to authoritarian influence, and irreconcilable to the shortcomings of others” (Methods of Social Psychology, E. S. Kuzmin).

    The American psychologist Fred Fiedler developed a method of “Evaluative bipolarization” of the individual. The principle of the method is as follows: the respondent is asked to rate two familiar personalities – very unpleasant and very pleasant – on a number of characteristics with a rating scale from 1 to 9. That is, the subject, on such traits as cheerfulness, friendliness, honesty, etc.evaluates his enemy and friend (most often so). Modern HR uses this technique to identify, for example, the level of softness/rigidity of managers (team members).

    So what's so interesting about this method? According to the results of research, it has been revealed that the more strict they are in assessing a person whose values are closer to the edges of the scale, the more categorical, irreconcilable, harsh in their judgments, and, as I think, biased. I.e., this is an indicator, in fact, of a rigid worldview, susceptibility to dogmatization and propaganda. Emotional assessment directly affects the objectivity of perception of others, and therefore yourself. In a broad sense, if we take as one of the foundations of wisdom independent thinking, a strong self-personality, the ability to look at things abstractly, then this method also determines the level of wisdom of the respondents.

    And from this we can draw the following conclusion: a wise person is reserved in his assessment.

    There is an obvious direct relationship between wisdom and tolerance, intelligence and calmness, a lot of knowledge and prudence.

    An extreme degree of expression of any feelings and emotions is not typical of a highly intelligent person. If you have before your eyes at the same time the image of a gray-haired peaceful old man, who is difficult to get out of balance, always not indignant, then you may think that old people are not at all active, bright expressiveness and the like.

    In any case, do not give in. The cause-and-effect relationship is reversed – it is the wisdom achieved in old age that gives this restraint and sobriety.

    There are two proofs of this (I will immediately make a reservation that there are always exceptions). First, elderly people are very active and funny, with a demon in their rib, very emotional – in most cases, they have been like this all their lives, and, therefore, have never been high-minded, or very wise, but have adopted the credo of a positive and easy attitude to the world and others, but are capable of accurate judgments and wit at any time.
    Secondly, young people who achieved wisdom earlier than their peers, as a result of which they became much more reserved and tolerant in many matters compared to others.

    That is, it is not age that determines the complex of such qualities as prudence, acceptance, calmness, etc., but wisdom gives them to a person. Therefore, such qualities can be called attributes of wisdom.

    Judge for yourself: let's imagine a very wise person, even a folklore image, even a historical one, even a collective one of their own, and ask the latter a question in a hypothetical dialogue that can compromise his wisdom. Well, from a particularly relevant patient – his attitude to homosexual relationships, which to this day cause many heated disputes and conflicts in the world.

    Can you imagine that a wise person would respond to this with something sharp and unambiguous?
    Now ask a similar question to the simplest friend in terms of life position and development. Most likely, he will speak very clearly.
    The same litmus question can be any other. And the easiest way, of course, is to test this on widely discussed issues. You can ask about the policy pursued by Putin.
    An educated person with knowledge in many areas, who understands the complexity of the political structure, the levers of political technology, the influence of the media, the temporality of opinions and the imaginary time, simply will not be able to express a monosyllabic assessment.

    And a certain Vasya from the next entrance, looking at the world through the TV, who has not read a single classic book, but considers himself more worthy than many, be sure that he will definitely tell you the” correct ” assessment in any case, well, just a sure thing.

    An intellectually developed person, in principle, cannot allow an unambiguous absolute assessment of something, and first of all himself, because he is prone to analysis, versatile vision and cannot be 100% sure of anything.

    Beware of the opinions of such people, do not seek advice from them. That's my advice.
    And please don't confuse “worldly experience” with wisdom. Yes, older people definitely know more about life, have seen more and know more, so it makes sense to ask them for everyday advice: about family matters, domestic problems, difficult situations, labor relations, personal grief. All this is from personal experience, or the experience of people they have known during their lifetime. They will remember a similar situation, figure out what would be best to do if they had the opportunity to choose how the person asking for advice now has-and they will advise you. It's an experience.

    But wisdom is a much more complex and rich concept. Where it is necessary to judge those areas with which a person has not come into contact in life; or those situations that have not been similar either in his own experience or in the experience of familiar people; or those cases where it is necessary to show the ability to analyze and synthesize, to resort to awareness, to a sharp mind and even cunning. Here is only a part of what is included in the concept of wisdom, in my opinion. I deliberately did not refer to dictionaries and general concepts. I have expressed here my vision and idea of wisdom. Naturally, it may not match yours. And that's great. The desire to object is the source of independent thinking, and pluralism is the engine of civilization.

    Wisdom = balance. To maintain it, you need to know yourself, understand others, and think evenly over time.

  2. A young fool doesn't get smart when he gets old, he becomes an old fool. Therefore, you should think about what your elders advise you to do. But this requires reason. And where to get it, if it is also in adults in four to five, and in young people so in one out of a hundred?

  3. The case of Teacher Io. (Based on Kaganov).


    Once upon a time a wise guru

    I gathered my students.

    Well, and among them foolishly,

    I don't know who it is,

    Some kind of mess

    The gray-haired man is quite old.

    At first I sat there as if in a trance,

    But, still, a dispute arose.


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    He began to criticize,

    Without proof, fervently

    And often through “mother”.

    He demanded attention,

    Shouted, ” all fools!”

    Shut up the outpouring

    The guys didn't get away with it.


    Greybeard the Screamer

    Much older than them,

    And not in human nature

    Beat the elderly in the gut.

    And the guru was eating a pear,

    Missing you a little,

    “Why should I listen to you?”

    He asked the old man.


    He screamed horribly:

    “I am older and wiser,

    Don't you see,

    Under my gray hair…”

    There is a murmur among the listeners

    Appeared in response to him.

    “…Focused experience

    Eighty years old!”


    But here's Teacher Io

    He half rose with a grin

    I threw the stub in the trash can

    From afar – hit.

    One casual gesture

    He calmed the audience down,

    And creaking his chair

    He told the old man:


    “Counting, of course, is stupid,

    That the buffet will give you satiety.”

    On aksakal stupor

    Inspired this answer.

    “Yes, you sit in the buffet

    At least an hour, or even two,

    The most well-fed person in the world,

    Gray head,


    You won't get rid of it,

    And they'll kick you out instead,

    If you can't buy one for yourself

    At least a couple of whites!

    The other will eat this pair

    In a few minutes.

    Just think about it, old man,

    Are you really cool?


    Determines satiety

    I haven't been there long,

    And the wallet is full

    And how many buns I ate!”

    Grandpa the arrogant jumped up

    To the laughter of the young.

    At least it's not pretty,

    But I forgive them.


    Devoured him like a pawn

    A sage in the prime of life.

    The old man disappeared hurriedly

    Ponder the answer.

  4. I have seen wise young men and infantile old age. Of course, the baggage of life experience is of great importance. Only the presence of material for analysis does not mean that the owner is able to “digest” it. At the same time, youth is not based on experience, but on patterns.

  5. One wise man was asked: “Why do you keep up with everything and are optimistic about everything? “I'm just not arguing with anyone . “But that's impossible ! – Impossible, so impossible, ” the sage replied . The thoughts of the old are flexible for the time being… but Alzheimer's is not dormant, many are already on the doorstep. Therefore, dogmas about the big mind of old people are crafty, of course, there is life experience, but everyone judges from their own bell tower. Is there such a term, who is older and right?…, this is another question… There is often an exclusively authoritarian message: “There is only one Truth on earth and I have it!” Such “wise men” are difficult to avoid …

  6. No. I never want to go back to 15.17. I remember how stupid and idiotic I was and the same age people around me. Constant thoughts about some imaginary depression, far-fetched problems in love relationships and without them, the desire not to live, the desire to constantly hang out on the street so as not to be alone, no matter with whom and no matter under what.Now 20, everything is fine with me, I enjoy life and almost never think up any extra problems, as I did when I was 16.I took up my mind, began to devote more time to self-education, I want to go somewhere else to do. In this regard, I survived a moronic adolescence and wiser than any other youngsters, because I have already experienced this and sympathize with them in everything. So yes. The older the wiser. When I am thirty, I will look at the past and those who are younger in general with a laugh as at the past and long-mastered level. There are also smart children, yes, but even they are prone to suicide in adolescence and some strange obsessive ideas that are closely related to decadence.

  7. Everything is very complicated. I'll try to explain.Until 100 years ago, the majority of the population was illiterate. almost more than half of them could not read and write (wiki to help, it's just awesome), so knowledge and experience were passed on by old people because in any case, once they lived to this age, they did something and knew how. Hence the respect and respect for the elderly, as the custodians of technical, moral and, for example, physiological knowledge. In the twentieth century, books appeared, literacy of the population increased, and, accordingly, the need for old people as an alternative to Wikipedia disappeared, but ethical norms were preserved, although not to the full extent, since they exist simply for the survival of the human species itself. That is why, although older people are not more intelligent, they help us to remain “human”. Something like that.

  8. Experience income can also be passive. Even if a person has been fooling around all his life, time itself makes his mind older. Impressions accumulate, willy-nilly there are several views on the thing, the thought “grows” a second or third plan. In one place and the stone grows, as they say. A person gains ready-made thoughts, speech turns, remembers the moves of the interlocutors. An old fool will always be more experienced than a young prodigy.

    But being right and being experienced are two different things. To support the statements, crushing experience-swinishness, and signals lies. In general, the ability to convince the other person does not mean that you are right. On the contrary, if you want to convey the truth, you will strive to speak on equal terms.

  9. They say that old people are not wise, but just careful. With age, the number of “mental prints” increases, both positive and negative. And as soon as our “I” is based on self-preservation, so is our experience on it, which, by the way, is clearly expressed in our present life.)

  10. More experienced is the one who has more experience in any field of activity, and not the one who is older. Those who are older simply had more time to gain more experience and go through different life situations, see different examples from life, learn from their own and other people's mistakes. And it often happens that advice from those who are older seems stupid, but time can show that they were right. And in some cases, it also happens that the older, the dumber, and old people can also make mistakes, and quite often. I don't know about the term, but there is a saying “I've lived my life without making any money.”

  11. Let me divide your question into two parts (since I see two implicit statements that need to be checked):

    1. The older a person is, the more experienced they are. I believe that this is the case in most cases. The older a person is, the more people they have seen in their life, the more books they have read, and the more mental and real situations they have experienced. He has become more experienced, because experience is the totality of events and phenomena accumulated over a lifetime and actively lived by a person. Does the experience enrich you? Definitely. Can a person always draw conclusions from their experience? Not always. A person who for some reason, having gained extensive life experience, cannot reflect on it, is like a person who has found a treasure chest and found on the chest a device with the most complex code of 800 digital positions. The “chest” does not open, the experience was available only at the time of receipt, therefore, such a person cannot teach anything. Another will get a chest with a three-digit code and open it easily, and the third will get a chest that is not opened at all. Experience is individual, as is its appropriation. The length of life also does not guarantee the richness of the assigned experience.

    2. The older person is always right. This statement is more likely wrong, although the opposite is also true – the one who is older is always wrong. The first judgment is often used by parents in a dispute with children for lack of other arguments, the second-by children against their parents. To be “always right”, one must not only be a genius in all sciences, but also a genius in practical life. Such people simply do not exist. On the other hand, with the exception of the severely mentally ill, there are no absolutely wrong people among the elders. In general, the correctness of something and the amount of experience gained do not coincide. It's like comparing the warm with the soft. A person can be right within their experience horizon, for example, a man who has “access” to his experience and has had four divorces in his life can teach his son “how not to”. But he can't teach him “how to get married properly”, because his experience of getting married and living in a marriage was only negative. Similarly, an atheist can teach a person to be skeptical about superstitions and unverifiable religious statements, but he cannot teach a person to navigate within a particular religious tradition. Or, for example, a philosopher, he can teach a young person how to use his mind correctly, but he cannot teach him how to live properly. On the other hand, a religious person who belongs to a large religious tradition, such as a priest, can teach a son or daughter how to avoid joining a sect or correctly navigate the world of religious concepts, but cannot protect them from crises of faith, for example. That is, if a teenager came to his father and said: “I have good knowledge in the field of IT, in particular, I program well and therefore I want to work in the field of IT technologies”, and his father said: “What? Yes, you take an example from me, my son. I've worked all my life first for the state, then for my uncle, and you also want to get a job in a firm working for your uncle! You better go to our relative-a businessman, he will attach you as a manager, and then maybe you will take out a loan or he will help and start a business, you will live luxuriously, smartly, here! And I don't want to hear these beggarly ramblings of yours about some kind of IT, I understand! You need to listen to your elders, here!” – this is an example of bad advice in all respects. The first is that the father imposes, but does not advise (this should already alert you), the second is that he advises based not on his work experience (he himself has never been a businessman), but based on his dreams of how he would become a businessman, the third is that he does not know what IT technologies are and for some reason imagines that this is some kind of office work necessarily with a poor result. And now an example of good advice, the daughter came to her mother and said: “Oh, mom, I love this guy so much, we are dating and I want a child from him, I'm already sleeping with him, and so on.” And the mother of her daughter says: “Think about whether you are doing the right thing. So I had a young man in my life, I loved him, I started sleeping with him, and as soon as the child appeared, that is, you, he ran away. Then I found love and married your stepfather, but then I almost went mad with grief and if it hadn't been for your grandmother, I would have killed myself. Don't repeat my mistakes.” Here is an example of good advice: 1) The mother encourages her daughter to reflect on her actions and does not push, does not force her to leave the guy, and so on; 2) The mother gives a negative example from her life and the advice is based on real experience, 3) The Daughter does not say why the mother should approve her choice, but puts the mother in front of the fact, Regardless of whether the guy loves her or is cheating on her, the mother's advice to “give an account of your feelings, stop and think” is valid.

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