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  1. Just have a good rest first. Get enough sleep, do what you've been wanting for a long time (even if there's a lot of traffic, try to find time to relax). This is necessary to relieve your head.�

    Then, with a fresh head, think about yourself, that's just about yourself. About your positive qualities, your achievements, your skills, and successfully solved problems. In short, all the good things that you can remember about yourself. Understand how good you are, and what good things you deserve.�

    And then the most difficult thing is to stop comparing yourself to others. It doesn't work, it's not motivation, you don't prove anything to anyone. Learn to give up on the opinions of others within reasonable limits (I'm talking about the example when you take on something new, and everyone tells you that oh, it's so difficult, you can't do it, and now you start thinking that if you really can't do it, they will somehow look at you the wrong way).�

    And find the goal that is important to you, and then the question of how to support yourself will automatically be resolved. Because you will understand that you are doing it for yourself, that you enjoy doing it. This can take quite a long time, because we are compared to someone from childhood, you can not get rid of the habit of comparing yourself to someone completely, but you can try to minimize its impact. And yet, no matter how trite it may sound, use what you know about yourself. That is, your actual capabilities, your energy reserve, and so on.�

    This is not a one-time action, but a process. It doesn't happen that you haven't supported yourself all your life, and then you do.

  2. I would say a rather strange thing: you need to make friends with yourself.Узна Get to know yourself better => treat yourself like a friend = > > in difficult moments, imagine what words of support you would express to a friend. That is, for myself.�

    There is a good TED talk about emotional hygiene: � � https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene?language=ru As far as I can remember, I had this habit from there �

    More time alone helped me. Long walks and a lot of podcasts on completely different topics with subsequent analysis of the author's opinion. As a result, a lot of new thoughts, a lot of observations of your own reaction. I began to understand better what to do to lift my spirit on my own 🙂

    Unfortunately, this has stopped working recently. So even in my isolated case, this did not become a panacea. But the habit of being friends with yourself helps you go through a lot and not go into self-destruct mode.

  3. There is only one case in the world where a person supported himself and at the same time achieved a good result, namely Baron Munchausen (pulled himself out of the swamp).
    He also gave a working recipe for self-support: you need to drag yourself by the hair.
    Well, if you do not yernichat, then… it's either the baron's recipe, or give up the idea.
    But it's not so tragic.
    A person does not need to support himself, a person needs to have enough strength to perform some action.
    The point is not in self-support, but in strength.
    That is, the question boils down to “how to become stronger”.�
    Getting enough sleep, taking a bath, and eating are all ways to get a little stronger in the short term.
    Playing sports or dancing, completing specialized courses, or gaining experience in a particular field-these are ways to become stronger for a long time.
    Although, of course, you should not limit yourself to the methods listed by me, and there are other equally suitable methods.

    And all this fuss with support… you have a choice between walking with crutches or walking without crutches. �
    Yes, you use less energy with crutches, but you can walk better without crutches.

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