5 Answers

  1. There is a unique resource-the Survive family of sites.roo. In particular, they have an online course “Improving self-acceptance” at the Correspondence School of Love. I've never seen anything like it anywhere. The cost of on-line courses is symbolic, and they are compiled exceptionally efficiently and competently. The courses are so effective that you don't really need personal counseling anymore. I recommend it. �

    In addition, these sites have courses and articles for psychological assistance to people in difficult life circumstances – the death of loved ones, breakups, suicides.

  2. Quite a deep question that everyone sooner or later asks themselves in this life. And it is unlikely to find the answer in the vast expanses of the web.
    The paradox is that people around us see us differently. And in this complex world of subjective assessments and opinions, it is quite difficult to hear yourself.
    Therefore, I will give quite a few recommendations:
    – do less introspection – it is depressing. But only do what brings inner peace and self-satisfaction. The more often we are alone with ourselves, the better we hear the inner voice. But this does not mean that you need to completely withdraw and withdraw into yourself. Let those who are really comfortable with you stay in your circle.
    – certain affirmations (attitudes) help you hear yourself. You can find invaluable advice for girls in Louise Hay's book “Love Yourself”.
    And one more important thing – no one in this life is not obliged to anyone, is not attached to anyone and is not like anyone. Everyone has their own path. Good luck ))

  3. Try reading Osho Rajneesh, perhaps he will help you to look at things differently. In general, I doubt that books can help with this. They can't help me)

  4. Visit our Live Beauty group on vkontakte (https://vk.com/yourealbeauty). We publish information about people, how everyone is different, stories of self-acceptance, positive photo shoots with different types of figures and looks, and other body-positive information. Not a book, of course, but we try to collect various materials from the Internet, including foreign ones, and make translations. I think it helps to look at the world from a different angle, to treat people and in particular yourself with more understanding.

  5. Form an adequate self-assessment. To love yourself is to accept yourself as you are, without irrational criticism. In no case do we compare ourselves to others. We strive for our ideal-yes, but without fanaticism. Simple training exercises will help you do this:

    1. Success diary. Every day, we are not lazy and write down why you are doing a great job today. Pay attention to details, it is not necessary to save kittens from a burning house every day, it is enough to praise yourself even for small things (I brushed my teeth at night, read 10 pages of a book, etc.)

    2. “I'm a good boy (girl)”

    Here we need a brief introduction to the basics of transaction analysis. In each of us there are three entities: the parent (care, guardianship), the child ( emotions, flirting, resentment), and the adult (a sort of censor, equalizer between parent and child).The parent acts in two positions: either he is a critic or vice versa loving unconditionally.� And very often our child will be overwhelmed by our critical parent. And your task is to become a caring parent for your child. Exercise:

    We take a mirror, bring it below the level of your eyes, as if you look at yourself in the mirror from top to bottom, and tell yourself to your beloved, unique, most valuable, your inner child, how much you love him, what is the most wonderful and good of us, all this from the position of a parent.

    We repeat the same thing from the bottom-up position, now the mirror is down, from the child's face we talk about what we need. Attention! It's important to hear and understand what your child wants, and speak up. (Approx. I want your protection, I want your love, I want you not to evaluate me, but to accept me as I am). Side effects: tears, tantrums – this is absolutely normal, says the removal of emotional clamps.

    1. Every time we want to scold ourselves for something biased ( I'm so fat, I have a dirty head, etc.), we banish these thoughts of a critical parent, call a loving parent, and love ourselves in any way!

    These exercises help many people, the main thing is regularity and will. On average, such exercises are done for 21 days. I have never seen any literature on this topic, your strength is in yourself. Good luck to you.

Leave a Reply