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  1. Why finally stop subjecting yourself to self-criticism? This is quite normal. You can not believe that you will succeed, otherwise it is fraught with overconfidence. And it, in turn, will lead to frequent failures. By questioning your every action, you automatically become an expert on yourself. On the other hand, it is important that these doubts do not go beyond reasonable limits..

    And here I come to the answer to your question. I also suffered from this problem in my time. And to be frank, its echoes are still showing up. But one day I came to the conclusion that I would not be able to analyze myself objectively. For example ,an action or other product of my activity that I considered completely unsuccessful, others could consider as brilliant. I decided that I needed an advisor who would objectively review each of my products that I question. Moreover, the adviser should not be interested in convincing me of my genius. That is why I often asked for advice or comments from people with whom I am not very close, but I am sure of their objectivity..

    But this is my story of gaining confidence. I don't know how it will help you, but why not try it?

  2. It's true that nothing works out when we don't feel strong enough. If you consider a person separately from other people, then if you want to feel strong in yourself, you just need to go back and forth, you should start to get something(in any of your activities), then your self-confidence will increase. Here you need to go gradually to the goal, so that something starts to turn out, you need what is called “skilful” in this. That is, if nothing works out, don't look at anything, just try to improve your skills that will help you achieve the task, even if you don't believe that something will work out, then start not from confidence, but from naked rationalism: “So, what do I need to do to get this-this-this”, just plan and perform actions. When something starts to work out, you will realize that you did everything right and got off the ground. Look at doubt and uncertainty not as a weakness, but as a strength. If you are not sure that the event you want will happen, then make EVERY effort to make it happen. That is, your doubts should motivate you to do everything as efficiently as possible, and not move you back. Just be careful: so you can become a perfectionist,) I'm not kidding. And that's not a good thing either. If something does not work out, do not give up, but learn from it – from each of your mistakes, the more lessons you learn, the faster you will develop in the future. In general, at first you should just forget about feelings and do, do, until it turns out, overcome yourself. Be an active person, the more areas you try yourself in, the more likely you are to find the one in which you will succeed the most and best. Here it is worth stopping, then you will forget about self-doubt. If we consider you as a part of society. Then surround yourself with people who will dispel all your self-doubt, such that when you look at them, you will want to start doing something and not stop. Let your friends be your mainstay… I've never been sure of myself for as long as I can remember, but all my doubts have forced me to find ways to solve the questions that arise in front of me so that you can not think about self-confidence. Of course, this requires much more effort, and I do not advise you to live like this. Over time, you will realize that being unsure of yourself is simply irrational and stupid, in other words, allow yourself to be moderately “bold” and self-confident in your thoughts and actions, because it is not always possible to leave on bare rationalism. Do not be afraid, over time everything will fall into place, the main thing is not to forget what you want from life-never, and sooner or later everything will work out. Good luck!

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