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  1. Good afternoon. For the accuracy of the answer, it would be great to clarify the context. Oh, well. Most often, people ask this question when they have crooked beliefs. These crooked beliefs in a conflict situation are affected and the person flashes uncomfortable feelings.

    For example, someone criticized and the whole person got angry or offended. It's hard to control yourself here. Because the feelings have already flared up. You can try to relax your muscles and go wash your face and switch gears.

    But it will repeat every time. How can this be prevented? To do this, you will have to change your beliefs and treat your neuroses, as well as learn the skills of psychological flexibility!

  2. Decide on an organizational basis – go to different rooms.

    Don't take it seriously. Взаимодействовать Interact with a person while playing.�

    Or don't interact.

    Work on the reasons.

  3. The question seems to be about controlling unwanted emotions, particularly anger.

    There are techniques that you can use to control your emotions.

    Controlling emotions in the moment:

    1. 5 techniques for managing anger

    2. Anger Management: 11 Tips for Controlling Anger and Annoyance

    3. Video for one and a half minutes


    If you practice these techniques, you will be able to use them consistently over time. Practice is important. It won't work out all at once, most likely. There will also be “rollbacks” when it seems to work before, but now it doesn't. It's normal to keep practicing.

    This is what you can do in the moment. Already on the battlefield, so to speak.

    Now about the preparation and training.

    1. Here's more about preparing for events where you know you'll probably be angry: How to tame your anger

    2. It is quite useful in general about anger and about the preparation and processing of such events. How not to get annoyed and not break down on the child?

    It is important to set aside some time in your schedule for this training. For example, one hour on Sundays. It can be more or less , depending on your situation, but you need to highlight it.

    Despite training, outbursts of irritation and anger can still occur. With time and practice, they should become easier and more controlled. However, you can analyze events that have occurred.

    Analyzing emotional triggers

    If you still lost your temper , you can analyze and reframe CBT using the ABC technique.

    A little bit about the fact that there is an opinion that if you accumulate anger, then you will explode later-this is an outdated hydrodynamic concept of emotions, which has been refuted experimentally. Rather, on the contrary – if you allow yourself to get angry, it will become more difficult to stop. Here's a 25-minute video about it. The video description contains references to relevant research and at least one other method of dealing with anger and irritation.

    If there is no progress and all this does not help , it is better to contact a specialist: a psychologist/psychotherapist/psychiatrist, who will help you choose individual adaptation methods.

  4. If you are annoyed with others, it means that you are ready to listen first of all to yourself, only your opinion is correct, and you are ready to hear others only if their opinion coincides with yours. Simply put, you deny the other person's reality by recognizing only your own reality as true. You have fallen into pride. A person is generally imbued with pride, just to varying degrees. That's what you need to work on.

    You can, of course, work with anger, but it appears only as a superstructure, more precisely, as a consequence of pride. So if pride is eradicated, then this anger will go away on its own.

  5. yesterday I answered a similar question – it's about human passions that rage in a person and make him their hostage. These passions must be curbed, as wild, unbroken horses are curbed�

    Don't show it – it will not be quite the right solution, because it can only work for a while, irritation will accumulate, accumulate and sooner or later the pressure will break out. By the way, there is an opinion that some diseases can be caused precisely by the fact that a person holds back everything negative in himself and this negative carries destruction inside. Of course, throwing it out is also not an option. How to get rid of the evil created in yourself, the evil reaction to stimuli?�

    In the Christian tradition, passion is most often understood as sinful “aspirations of the soul, consisting in its passion for something instead of God, and” which have become a habit ( idol, idol, dominant, meaning).”

    There are usually eight main passions, which include pride, vanity, avarice (greed), anger, fornication, gluttony, despondency (laziness), and sadness (underline). They are divided into physical (gluttony, fornication) and spiritual. They are opposed by the eight virtues: love, humility, non-covetousness, meekness, chastity ,temperance, sobriety, joy.

    Prayer. M. Lermontov

    Don't blame me, O God,
    And do not punish me, I pray,
    For the fact that the darkness of the earth is grave
    With her passions I love;
    For the fact that rarely enters the soul
    of your Living speech stream,
    For the fact that in error wanders
    My mind is far away from you;
    For the fact that the lava of inspiration
    It seethes in my bosom;
    For what wild agitation
    Grim glass of my eyes;

    For the fact that the earthly world is too small for me,
    I'm afraid to get in to you,
    And often, by the sound of sinful songs
    , I, O God, do not pray to you.

    But extinguish this wonderful flame,
    All-burning bonfire,

    Turn my heart to stone,
    Stop the hungry gaze;
    From a terrible thirst for chants
    Let me be free, O creator,
    Then on the narrow path of salvation
    I'll turn to you again.

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