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  1. Honestly, I sat down to write an answer several times, but the solution to this puzzle seems to me to lie beyond it.

    Why do you need strength of character and perseverance? To do things you don't want to do?

    Then do I even need to do this?

    Do we need the strength of character to do what we're interested in doing? Of course not. What we are interested in, we do without any compulsion.

    But strength of character becomes necessary when we believe that we must do something to achieve the desired result.

    If the desire is real, then the process of moving towards it will be a joy for us. We will like him.

    Fake desires are when we want to get results, but we don't want to work for them.

    I want to look like the guy in the underwear commercial, but I don't want to go to the gym.

    How often do we want to look like this, but we don't want to sweat in the gym and eat right?

    I want a lot of money, but I don't want to try, make mistakes and try again.

    I want to speak Spanish, but I don't want to learn it every day.

    The secret is to choose what we like to do regularly, not what we have to force ourselves to do every day. Then the strength of character will not be so necessary.

    PS. If I misunderstood your question or life situation, write in the comments and I will try to help.

  2. Let's start with the fact that character is made up of habits: finish the job to the end or let the process take its course, regularly exercise or lead an unhealthy lifestyle, devote time to self-education or blame other people for all the difficulties.

    To get a new habit or give up an old one, you need willpower. Will is a resource.

    The good news is that this resource is replenishable (we rest, get inspired by a worthy example and the support of friends and family).

    The bad news is that depletion is still possible. I.e., in the short term, volya is an exhausted resource. The “food experiment” by Roy Baumister, a psychologist at the University of Florida, is revealing: (mann-ivanov-ferber.ru ).

    And, probably, again the good news is that the will can be slowly trained. Like a muscle, gently, without overloading.

    From all of the above, the steps follow:

    1. Understand what's bothering you and break the vicious circle. Maybe your strength of character is no longer there, because you have been working seven days a week for two years and are responsible for everything and everything in our sublunary world? Maybe some tasks should be delegated, share responsibility with colleagues and family members, and start getting enough sleep yourself? Have a day off and allow yourself to DO NOTHING in a specific period of time, and then do something that you have long wanted, but there was no time: for example, visit the zoo, learn to shoot, read a book. Surprisingly, this will soon allow you to pay attention not to urgent matters, but to long-term and important projects.:)

    2. To understand what we are going to complete, we will set a task that motivates us by itself. Important! We set clear, specific and achievable goals! We break down complex tasks into small steps.

    Option: “Perfect body for the beach season” – bad and unattainable. But “I do yoga 5 times a week for 3 weeks” is suitable. By the way, for the habit to take root, we need 21 days 🙂 Therefore, you won't need any willpower to continue your classes after 3 weeks. Exactly the same technique can be used to get rid of a bad habit.

    1. Do not forget to please yourself when achieving your goals by arranging a mini-holiday. In addition, it is important to tell about your success to those who can be happy for you. =)

    And yes, it's not the gods who burn pots.

    Good luck!

  3. Willpower is necessary for any person – both in order to go in the right direction, and in order not to go in the wrong. And in fact, we all have it – we get out of bed to go to school or work.
    I consider myself divided into two types – short-term willpower and long-term. Short-term training can and should be done. Secrets in readiness and concentration. After a good rest, food and when nothing hurts, it is much easier to force yourself to do something. These moments are easy to use, you just need to remember in time.
    Concentration is a bit more difficult, but it is also feasible.
    – You should not move mountains at 1 time, you should be happy with small steps, for example, write down on paper what you want
    – No person can do 10 things at the same time, even Caesar, so you need to concentrate on one
    thing – If you don't want to at all, meditation or analog helps perfectly. You just sit/stand, and don't do anything at all until you feel like doing what you think is right.
    By the way, meditation is generally a useful thing, you can start training your will right from it.

    Long-term willpower needs to be built by shaping the process. If we repeat one movement every day for a specific event, it is very easy. For example, unlocking a mobile phone 😉. You can also cultivate any useful habit or remove unwanted ones. Usually, a couple of weeks is enough to form it. The main thing is that there is a clear dependence on the triggering event(an alarm clock will do), that it is relatively simple(they took it and did it on the 3rd day without the Internet, reference books and consultations, otherwise you need to simplify it), and that there is a clear positive goal (beauty, health, well-being, world peace).
    Good luck with your achievements!

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