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  1. If we take the concept of “a person's ability to recognize emotions, understand the intentions, motivations and desires of other people and their own…”, then practice and books help.
    Read fiction and novels like Austin.
    I don't recommend any psychologists, but if you want, you can read them.

    Practice. Meet people, analyze their behavior, and open up at will. You can draw a logical chain between other people's feelings and actions. this helps you better understand the world.

    Learn about yourself – in solitude, learn in society.

    And as for manipulating emotions, this is a very nasty and insidious business, I can't help it.

  2. Most likely, you just need to try to think more, think about small things and move on from small things to more global topics. Learn to abstract, for example, something or someone is annoying and instead of concentrating on this person or situation, try to think about something pleasant and interesting. Although, I think sometimes it is very useful to “bomb”, because not all people manage to destroy negative emotions, usually just hide them. And this has terrible consequences.

  3. I have no idea. I have an IQ of 146 according to Wexler, I do not feel the need to seek compensation for intelligence in developed emotions. I'm happy with what I have.

  4. Emotional intelligence is an understanding of the purpose of emotions in a person's life and appropriate behavior, when emotions are for good, for joy, and not to the detriment of the body and intellect. Perfect emotional intelligence is the complete absence of emotions when necessary. For example, technical analysis, the synthesis of a new technical solution, the need to accurately and accurately act in a situation when life throws you an unexpected and complex challenge, one after another, or even all at once. On the other hand, it is the complete presence of absolute virtuous emotions, at moments when life opens up to you in all its glory, the diversity of material forms, colors, tastes and smells of all material objects surrounding you, both naturally natural and created by man. Weak emotional intelligence is when emotions take full control of your body and brain, and poison your quality of life.

    It is impossible to develop such a perfect emotional intelligence through conscious psychological effort and exercise. One can only allow all emotions to express themselves by penetrating the source of all emotions through passive psychological observation of one's entire daily life, giving emotions full freedom of expression and demanding nothing in return. This will naturally sharpen the quality of emotional intelligence.


  5. I think, just as you train your own intelligence-give it problems and solve them. Analyze your own and other people's emotions and actions, look for root causes, and test your hypotheses.
    I think it's a very good exercise to give precise definitions of each of your emotions. Every time you feel something that takes you away from your rest state, try to calmly observe yourself from the outside and answer a few questions for yourself: what exactly is this emotion and what caused it? Is it constructive for me or do I want to get rid of it? And if the latter, what can I do about it?
    Surely, experimental methods can give a good boost to the development of such emotional and analytical abilities-as in any science. Try to do things that you haven't done before, and watch your emotions, try to predict them in advance for each such situation, and then check whether the forecasts were justified, analyze what helped you make the correct forecast, if so, and what you didn't take into account if not.
    Carefully monitoring other people's emotional reactions is also very interesting. Try to remember how emotions manifest that you are sure of and don't need to guess, so that you can recognize them later when you don't know in advance. Sometimes it's a good way to ask a person directly what kind of emotion they are experiencing right now: people often respond sincerely, and for various reasons – some out of surprise, and some simply because they have no reason to hide a direct answer to a direct question. You can, of course, try to evoke a specific pre-defined emotion in people, but this already smacks of manipulation, and if it doesn't work out, then the result can also be unpredictable.
    And when you have enough experience and knowledge about emotions and behavioral tactics, you can learn how to correct them. First of all, your own. Surely you're not going to manipulate anyone?;)

  6. Education and self-education)) But seriously, the level of emotional intelligence directly depends on IQ, on awareness, or, if you want, on the realization that emotional management is often not always within our power. And it's not always good for your health, it's managing your emotions. But, there are emotions that you can and should restrain in yourself, so as not to harm other people. People say: “Measure seven times, cut one off.” This is also directly related to emotions.

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