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  1. This is the first time I've answered this question. Previously, I considered them abstract and therefore unresponsive, but then I had to figure it out myself and look for an approach.
    To be in harmony with yourself, you need to very clearly understand what kind of processes are now flowing in your subconscious: what wishlist for some actions where your desires and where externally imposed obligations, why you want one or the other and rejected all other options where the end starts laziness and procrastination, what are the reasons and things like that.
    Learning to ask yourself questions is the first step. Why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve? Why don't I want to do this? How do I feel now? What emotions does this action, this person, evoke? Why, why, why?
    Step two is to learn how to answer them honestly. This is more difficult, because we are not used to being honest even with ourselves, especially when the truth is unpleasant.

    At first I wanted to sort out some situation, but then I decided that a competent person would come and explain everything much better than me.

  2. Before looking for harmony in yourself, you need to understand what the Self is. Where it comes from, what it consists of, and what relations it has with the rest of the world. The whole world is a process. And the human mind is a process. If the whole world is a rippling ocean, then one person's mind is a small current within that ocean. This Gulf Stream is only small. In addition to this person, there are many other consciousnesses, and together they make up the world process. Why is the mind a process? Because every new moment there is a change in the mind. It's like changing frames in a movie, only in the mind these frames change at a rate of about once every 5.39 by 10 to the power of 44 seconds. That is, very quickly. Because the mind does not recognize these changes, there is an illusion of some permanent state of mind, just as in movies there is an illusion of the living world on the screen. Networks of connections are formed in the brain, through which signals pass more often. This is how habits, attachments, and addictions arise. All these things are integral elements from which a person tries to build some convenient permanent Self. The formation of the Ego is influenced by external factors. All the life experience of a person, everything that he meets every day, all the decisions and choices made, all this changes his Self. The mind exists as a set of moving parts. These parts can move in concert, or they can argue, counteract each other. When all the parts of the mind move in concert, this is inner harmony. It looks like a clock. When all the parts, all the gears and springs work in harmony with each other, then the clock shows the correct time. If at least one part is out of sync with the rest, the clock will start showing the wrong time or stop altogether. Therefore, to bring all the processes of the mind in harmony, you need to select some basic, most correct, most necessary, most valuable process, the one that helps a person become happier, and already adjust all the other parts in accordance with this basis. To do this, it is useful to understand how personal happiness manifests itself. What things please, what things seem interesting, what things create comfort and discomfort. It is useful to make this clear to yourself constantly throughout your life, because these things change over time. This basis of personality is always unique. It consists of unique parts that are not found anywhere else in the world. Therefore, only the person himself can understand and create his own happiness. Other people can offer something, advise, help, but in the end, the person himself makes a free decision from which parts to build his happiness.

    A person can be a cause of good or harm. When a person harms others or himself — he cannot be happy, because there is suffering, dissatisfaction, discomfort. Therefore, to become happy, you need to learn to refrain from harming yourself and others. On the contrary, you need to try to be useful, to direct all parts of the mind in the direction of creating something useful and neutralizing the harmful. And how to distinguish benefit from harm? To do this, you need to learn to perceive reality as it is, without illusions and distortions. When a person clearly sees the world, he understands what is bad for him and for others, and what is good. For example, if a person knows that the fire is hot, he will not stick his hand in it and will try to warn others against this. Therefore, in order to be in harmony with the outside world, you need to constantly, all your life, explore reality, check how it has changed. At the same time, it is useful to be prepared for the fact that it is very difficult to become a perfect ideal person. It is very difficult to control and know everything in the world. Therefore, sometimes there will be situations when the reality is not what it seemed and there will be harm. Then you will need to try to remove this harm. Use all available methods to reduce the consequences of harm. If you can change it, then do it. If you can't change that, then just go through the consequences until they're exhausted, and don't go back to it again. It is important to remember that the world itself is not bad or good, it just exists. Bad and good are human assessments of phenomena that appear when suffering arises or disappears. Since the human mind is basically free, it can choose whether to suffer or not to suffer. And thus choose in which world to live: in the bad or in the good.

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