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“Faith in yourself” is a stamp from the literature on po-psychology. But it has taken root so much that many of its speakers do not even notice its obvious absurdity. In fact, this is an oxymoron) �
You can believe in certain things, the existence of which, and the content of which, you can not be convinced by experience, i.e. you can not acquire knowledge about these things. For example, in God, in the victory of world communism, or in your own 90th anniversary )
As for your personality, character traits, abilities and capabilities – all this is quite amenable to study and knowledge. You should study and know yourself: it is knowledge, and not faith “in yourself”, that will help you make the most effective and successful decisions in life. �
Another thing is that a person tends to doubt the results of their enterprises and their initiatives: with a 100% guarantee, you can only put on slippers in the morning ) But in business and initiatives, you have to take risks – there is no other way.
PS, for advanced users: all of the above, of course, does not address the fundamental question of the essence of human existence and is pure solipsism ) Any Buddhist would throw rotten tomatoes at me for this answer )) But my job as a psychologist is to motivate my audience to be creative, not to put them in a full lotus position )
I believe that there is no way!!! To stop doubting, you need at least to be born a successful person, who from childhood almost everything turns out with 2-4 attempts… If you, like Me at 33, are constantly making mistakes, with choices, with actions, constantly messing up, constantly struggling with debts, surviving, then nothing will help, time is lost, and no one will wait… Absolutely everyone and everywhere needs a result yesterday, be it work, relationships, family…
Actually, there are two questions.The first is how to gain faith in yourself.�Second-to paraphrase – is it possible in principle to stop doubting?��
To gain faith in yourself, you need two things-self-knowledge and self-acceptance. Self-knowledge-for the most unbiased assessment of their strengths and weaknesses. Since such a question has arisen, I would venture to assume that the list of shortcomings of the author of the question will be much more extensive than the list of advantages( so you need to work with this list of shortcomings and divide it into two categories – shortcomings are acceptable and unacceptable, because there are no perfect people, otherwise they would not be people, but angels) therefore, the presence of certain shortcomings is possible and necessary) they can be said to balance a person, make him harmonious. And accepting your strengths and weaknesses is an important step towards gaining confidence. But you need to get rid of unacceptable shortcomings that prevent you from living a full life. How? By sheer force of will. But set tasks consistently. It is impossible to become completely different from “next Monday”. So, we set a certain goal and mentally prescribe the stages of achieving it. And we move towards it, assuming that there may be rollbacks or stomping on the spot – all this is normal, usually. And again, we set feasible goals. We are all different, very different. We have different natural inclinations and associated abilities. What is easy for one person, for another is the result of considerable effort – or not at all achievable. I want to play the guitar, but I can't hear it. I want to sing, but I don't have a voice. This should be taken into account. Achieving a certain goal will give you confidence in your abilities. So, you can put the next, more complex one. Step by step, step by step….
And now a few words about whether it is possible to stop doubting… To stop doubting means to stop moving forward, to improve, paradoxically) as soon as a person stops doubting-that's it! He reached his goal. It won't jump any higher. He stopped, stiffened…. Doubt is a necessary component of professionalism, and the absence of doubt is a sign of an amateur. So you should not be afraid of doubts!
Perhaps the main difference between us and the computing power of any computer is the doubt in our own decisions. No matter how complex artificial intelligence is, no matter how complex its neural networks are – until it learns to doubt its own decisions, weigh the pros and cons, and draw conclusions that don't seem rational at first – we will surpass it.
We are not machines. we are not made of logic, we have the right “artistic” hemisphere, which gives us the ability to search for ways based on our own experience-experiential, sensual, and this gives us an advantage. This is also called wisdom. The more we make mistakes, doubt, and look for the right path that will be consistent not only with the rules of logic. but also to arrange us at the level of conscience – the smarter and more developed in all senses we will become.�
Only small-minded people are 100% sure of themselves – probably each of us has communicated with such an asshole who praises his own opinion to the heavens, and does not care about someone else's. Do we really think he's smart? Hitler and Stalin were 100% confident in themselves – I don't want to present them as role models.�
You always need to assess the situation soberly and remember that self-belief or determination are useful things, but they also need to be kept in check. In any campaign, the one who is most insecure always shouts and fights.
To begin with, it is important to take reasonable care of your body, exercise and eat rationally. Do not forget about personal hygiene and a neat appearance. Чистые Clean hair, hands and nails always adorn a person. If you are reasonably in favor of
Self-belief is useful when it is based on experience. To gain experience, you need to explore yourself, test your strength. If a person needs to lift a kettlebell weighing 64 kg., just faith is not enough for him. First you need to make sure that you can lift a weight of 4 kg., then 16 kg., then 32 kg. , and then try to lift 64 kg. To gain self-confidence, you need to understand how cause and effect relate. What is the source of strength? Professional bodybuilders are well aware of how muscles work, what needs to be done to strengthen themselves so that they can lift heavy weights. They follow a strict training program that does not allow overloading. If a person knows his level, then he has no doubts about what he can do, and what it is too early to take on yet.
Therefore, it is useful to try to do some simple things first, and if it worked out, then remember: “I can do it.” Then gradually develop your skills and take on more complex things. The more often you do something, the more time you devote to it, the stronger the connections in the brain become. A person is not born with the ability to walk. But it is often practiced. Connections in the brain are so firmly fixed that in adulthood a person does not even think about how to walk, it turns out as if by itself. He is absolutely confident in his ability to walk. It's the same with any case. The more practice, the more confidence.