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  1. This is usually “long-term work”, with or without a psychologist. The point is usually not to “open up and trust” everyone again (this is unnecessary and unsafe), but rather to create your own “trust spectrum”. To do this, you need to study a lot -your trust, how it arises, to whom, in what aspects, how it manifests itself, and in what you are ready to trust, and in whom you are not. One and the same person can be trusted in one thing, and he can not be trusted in something else. I.e. trust is not a relay with the “on/off” position, it is the result of experience and distance selection. Different people will be at different distances of trust; it's like the place where you live: someone will never be invited to visit, someone will only see common areas, someone-personal space, and no one will ever see the password from the Wi-Fi – who gets where, this is determined only by the owner of the house.

  2. In Jewish philosophy, there is a very wise postulate: “The deceived person is no less guilty of deception than the one who deceived him, because he created the conditions for being deceived and thereby led the deceived person into temptation”) �

    If you are the victim of a betrayal, consider it primarily your fault and your “jamb”, and not the jamb of a traitor. This means that your beliefs and behavior were not adequate enough to avoid such a situation.

    This position will allow you to avoid a new betrayal to think not about the insidiousness of others, but about yourself, about your attitudes, beliefs and behavior. Which is much more constructive )

  3. Hmm, thinking about death helps me.

    I know it sounds a little weird.

    In short, no one will leave here alive.

    this is a very simple equation.

    if we all die, then the end is determined. And since it is predetermined, then standing still, closing myself off from people, I gain nothing and in the end – I die ,and that's all.

    If I do not stand still, then there are chances to meet decent and pleasant people who will give me hours, days and maybe years of wonderful pastime and at this time I will be happy and only then-I will die.

    So if everyone is going to die, isn't it better to try to make your life brighter? after all, there is no need to protect yourself from injuries

  4. Imagine how evil works. Your Judas received his 30 pieces of silver, but they are not his long-term goal: to make you unhappy, to deprive you of simplicity and trustfulness, to deprive you of euphoria from life, to plunge your soul into the same painful darkness in which he himself is-this is the real goal of all offenders, and not the individual black eye that he gave you. He betrayed you because he betrayed himself once, and it has been painful to look at you ever since. If you think this way, then it becomes clear why, despite resentment and even despair, you need not close yourself from the light: for genuine revenge.

  5. Simply. Life is beautiful and amazing ,Прекра Stop the chandelier on holidays and Surprise all the time.If you also consider that IT is also not eternal. It is necessary to live, you will think you got a piece of shit on the road of life (I myself met this miracle) crossed and went further, of course you should not trust so quickly and you should not immediately open up too much. And it is very important to want to live and live happily.

  6. Go to a psychologist. A lot of different answers to a fairly general question will only confuse you. The psychologist has, however, some technique that is aimed at a certain direction of views.

  7. Well, simple logic. Not everyone is an asshole. You can see people. Not everyone wants to throw money and shit in the soul. And you betrayed everyone, here you are not the fairy-tale Prince Exupery around the unfair big world. You better remember who you betrayed yourself, or who you hurt. And I'll tell you something else. You don't have to trust anyone in Prin-icp. You can simply depict the necessary social rituals so that people do not take offense, while remaining that part of consciousness that is aware of everything is far from sincere feelings for a person. And I can add more. If you want to be an altruist. in principle, you should not expect good things for yourself, you just give it always, no matter what they say to you.

  8. In my opinion, this is not necessary. Not trusting and not opening up is a very good habit (or solution) that you have come to, as far as I understand, through your own experience.
    People are certainly different, some are good, some are not so good, but openly trusting everyone is not the case. If there is a candidate, you can slowly “trust” him, moving from the least valuable to the most valuable. In the end, you will understand what kind of person it is.

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