I always miss my friends and family very much, and when I talk to one of them, it becomes boring, the desire to communicate disappears. Why is this happening?

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1. Your attitude to the communication process is somewhat similar to juice. When there is no juice, you want it. When the juice is there, you drink half of it, get full, and then lose interest in it. And your loved one seems to have to go again and find some more juice for you.

   Try to treat the communication process as a mutual recharge. It's like you have batteries and you're swapping out suitable chargers. When your loved ones charge you with some energy and joy, and you at the same time charge them. Tell something interesting from your life, something funny, share discoveries, surprises from the world, creative achievements, plans, something useful and important for your interlocutor, secrets, life hacks. Then you will have twice as much energy between the two of you, which you will divide in half. Or imagine that your joy is money. Now you just go to a loved one and ask them for money. And you imagine that you exchange currency with him, which you will then spend in different countries. This currency is your joy. In other words, try to offer something in response and from yourself.

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2. We all tend to miss someone, even if we don't have a good relationship with them or they haven't been around for a long time. All this forms our personality, and at the same time affects the hormonal background, and it, in turn, affects our mental well-being.�

   In fact, we don't miss these people, but the associative reaction (according to Pavlov) makes us connect those feelings with the same people.�

   When feelings collide with reality, there is a dissonance of awareness. You or they have changed in the system of priorities, interests and views. As a consequence, the expected response.�

   P. s: Try to diversify your joint leisure time / dialogue to suit your own criteria.

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