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    1. First of all, take care of yourself and your needs. Understand what your needs are important: learn the Maslow pyramid. It identifies seven basic needs: physiology, safety, love, respect, cognition, aesthetics, and self-fulfillment. Each of these needs must be met at least at a basic level.

    2. Give up self-flagellation. Be aware of the reason for your life's failures: when you face a problem, you do what you think is right, but because you lack knowledge and skills, the result is bad. That doesn't make you a bad person. It just means that you don't know how to do something. And if you don't know how, then you can learn.

    3. Learn to deal with life's challenges effectively. Analyze your behavior: which of your actions was right and led to the desired result, and which was a bad decision. Repeat successful actions as often as possible, and try new solutions instead of unsuccessful ones.

    4. Do not expect love and recognition from other people, but take care of yourself. Everyone is responsible for their own life, and there are no people who will make your life happier.

    5. Learn to build close and warm relationships. Learn to behave respectfully and within your limits, be generous and do not humiliate your loved ones. Relationships are the most difficult part of life, but they are also the most important. For our mental health, we need people who love us. But building such relationships is a whole science that many people don't know very well. Learn this gradually.

    6. Find something in your life that is good for people. Work takes up a significant part of your life, and you won't be able to feel happy if you don't have a job where you feel needed and competent. You will become useful when you start genuinely helping people. It's not about a specific profession: many professions help people in one way or another. It's all about the employee – whether you go to work like hard labor, do your tasks on the back of your mind, or put your soul into making other people's lives better. Of course, there are professions and firms where it is difficult to be useful to someone. They should be avoided. Without them, you still have a lot of opportunities in life.

    7. Keep an eye on everyday life. Maintain order in the house, follow hygiene, take care of your health. Fanaticism is not required, just the simplest care is enough: regular showers, healthy food, light physical activity, timely treatment. I know a lot of cases when people became much happier when they improved their life.

    8. Keep an eye on your mental health. If you have emotional injuries, addictions, toxic relationships, if most of the time you feel bad and you realize that you are not coping – find a therapist who will help you make life better. Now psychological help is available for every taste and budget: starting from advice on the Internet and ending with professional psychotherapy of all directions. Don't be afraid to see a therapist: of course, no one can guarantee that you will immediately find a good specialist, but when you find one, your life will change for the better.

  1. “I give up and can't take it anymore,” is just the natural result of using simple strategies and easy ways))

    There is no such manual, and those who sell it are at best naive dreamers, at worst vile scammers.

    To be happy, you need to do what you like and bring pleasure, and not do anything else. At all.

    Scared?

    Of course)))

    Because such a simple recipe implies a lot of work on yourself, a long search for yourself, your role in this world, your principles, your values, your qualities and developing an attitude towards them (what is good, what is bad, what needs to be developed, and what needs to be changed).

    And after a painful search for yourself (if you do it honestly and to the end, you will have to see a lot of what you yourself hide from yourself all your life), the next period of hard work begins: rebuilding your habits.

    It is very difficult to do exactly what you really want when there are so many hateful but familiar things to do – it also requires a lot of work on yourself. A lifetime of work.

    And only by forming the habit of doing your own thing, doing it the way you want it, and getting rid of everything superfluous, alien, imposed or become your default, because everyone does it, because it's the way it is, will you become a free and happy person.

    Well, this, in a nutshell))

  2. Instructions? simple as that.

    if you don't like the game, don't play it.

    In other words, if you don't like your life, don't live it.

    throw everything to hell, the planet was spinning before you were born and will spin after.

    work at that job, so that there is enough for life and not too stressful. after all, you can live on a penny, there would be a desire.

    and live in your own pleasure – you will walk in parks, go skiing, ride a bike in the summer, and so on.

    for such a life, a small PO will be enough for you.

    If it suits you , you'll live like this.

    If not , you will have a rest and try again, to conquer the peaks.

    Life is not a marathon. you can take a break at any time.

  3. You definitely need to change your attitude to life, because everything depends on your thinking. As we know, thoughts are material and this is true, because when you are positive, you will be happy.
    �But undoubtedly, thinking alone is not enough, and no matter how much we imagine that happiness is not in money, it is a naive self-deception. Therefore, you need to improve your financial literacy and get rid of your consumer mindset for a while. Don't buy iPhones, don't save up for a car, anduse your funds wisely-invest them in assets and only then will the money work for you, not you for them. Immediately there will be free time to implement some of your plans and life will seem interesting.
    �Therefore, I want to recommend an excellent book that will help you put everything on the shelves in your head. It's a bestsellerRobert Kiyosaki's “Rich Dad, Poor Dad”

  4. Just learn wisdom from an old Montenegrin. But in general, if something does not suit you, then you need to change it and not get hung up on financial components.

  5. the first is never to despair or lose Hope. In fact, all human diseases can be defeated, the main thing is not to self-medicate, not to turn to charlatans and horse breeders and correctly diagnose – I say allegorically.�

    Personally, my understanding and experience suggests that a healthy mind brings healing to everything – not the one who is in trouble is lost, but the one who is lost in spirit has fallen. You need to strengthen your spirit, your spiritual core, but for this you need to turn to God's Spirit.

    12 But when Jesus heard this, he said to them, ” It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick,

    28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest;

    29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls;

    30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

    (Matthew 11: 28-30)

  6. In short, in the ass tips ” just live)” . I didn't just drown for a year, I was already feeding fish.. I gave up, �a full bouquet of psychosomatics turned on, I frankly skipped or purposely was late for work, did not communicate with anyone, sabotaged the routine “live learn work” with some swelling. I was quietly losing my mind. I was afraid of this, but in my heart I was waiting for it, but I would rather have it already. In short, to a psychotherapist. Immediately. Run. Sparing no effort and money.

  7. try alternatives.

    the first decisions will certainly fail, but over time, through imagination and search, collecting information, you will choose the path that suits you.

    and here's something else that will make everything easier for you-a partner.

    find a partner (preferably of the opposite sex) who will be your companion and second head in your adventures.

    shit happens in life, it's normal.

  8. Think about what you truly love, and make it an hour a week, no matter how difficult it may be. Also, have someone who accepts you and understands you without a forced smile. I, of course, also lost in life, but these two things help at least not to load.

  9. Everyone above is giving you real instructions, and you're just a little lost. You know, happiness is just a word. So what's stopping it? Someone said above that life is not a marathon. I don't agree with him. You need the strength to walk, and only you can give it to you. Keep your mind occupied with interesting things, activities, and love. I can pretend to be your parents, of course, but, like this.

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