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Oh, it's not my conscience…
No, not instinct.
C. G. Jung called it the ” complex.”
Obsessive judgment of yourself based on your actions or omissions. False association between yourself and your actions. “I” and “my actions” are not really the same thing.
Hasty conclusion (groundless): I'm doing well, so I'm good. If I do something bad , I'm bad.
It doesn't mean anything.
Guilt is not constructive. It is of no use to yourself or others.
It is more effective not to draw such ridiculous conclusions, but to focus on the fact that”if I do not act as I would like, then I need to look for other more effective ways of acting.”
Why do you feel guilty?
Defect in the parenting method. Parental manipulation of their love for the child: “If you behave well, we will show our love, and if not, then not.” For a child, especially a small one, the loss of parental love or its manifestations is tantamount to death. He would do anything for her. Therefore, such education does not seem cruel, but effective. But it only seems so.
This is what our conscience tells us. There are many concepts of the origin of conscience. Personally, I support the evolutionary concept that explains the origin of conscience in relation to the biological and social development of altruism. I advise you to read literature on the topic and watch movies, for example, Ridley's book “The Origin of Altruism”, Dawkins 'film” Good Guys finish first”.
Heh, it's good that you asked me this question. The fact is that I have successfully got rid of the feeling of guilt. I don't have one. And all thanks to one simple conclusion.�
If some shit happens, there are two options: it's not my joint and it's my joint. In the first case, I have nothing to feel guilty about. In the second case, there are again two options: I can fix this jamb and I can't fix it. In the first case, I fix the jamb and everything is fine. In the second case, what happened happened, you can't do anything about it, and therefore you shouldn't suffer about it, it won't lead to anything anyway. And it turns out that there is never any need to feel guilty.�
However, my lack of guilt doesn't make me an immoral, irresponsible shithead. Rather, on the contrary, I do what I have to do, even correct other people's mistakes if possible, but not for the sake of not feeling guilty, but simply because it is necessary, because it will be better for everyone.�
From all this, I can conclude that the feeling of guilt is imposed by society, and even in childhood. It is a psychological punishment for an objectionable act or omission. “If you don't do <name of the desired action>, then you will be to BLAME and you will feel bad about it!” That is, it is a tool for manipulating a person. And if there is no sense of guilt, then manipulating a person is not so easy.
“Guilt” is the voice of conscience. In various Religions, the presence of a person's conscience is cited as one of the proofs of the existence of God, i.e., a higher intelligence that, out of love for us, approves or disapproves of certain of our actions. Therefore, they say “act according to your conscience” or” with a light heart ” or they say “your heart is heavy”. Anyone has experienced these feelings. Modern scientists have replaced the unscientific word God with the obscure word instinct, but the meaning remains the same.
Guilt is triggered by the “social Self,” that is, a person's ability to understand how their actions will be perceived and evaluated by others.�
The ability is considered to be not natural, but cultural, brought up, for example, in children's games with changing roles (like tag or “daughter-mother”); moreover, without natural prerequisites like the now famous mirror neurons responsible for understanding the feelings of others, too, of course, nothing would have happened.
well, since I was asked to answer, I will again note that I can only share my opinion, since I am not an expert (and, frankly, I can't imagine which specialist will answer most reliably)
it seems to me that guilt is a social phenomenon, a kind of regulator of behavior in society. after all, guilt is a very conditional concept. it is one thing to consider it within the framework of legislation (again, fixing social norms of behavior!), but it is another to talk about individual understanding and feelings of guilt.�
for me to feel guilty is:
1) unconsciously signaling to myself that the choice/action was wrong, that I need to go back and correct/not do what I thought – this is the function of the regulator, a subconscious mechanism closely related to the concept of “conscience” and helps me determine whether I am not shit at the moment in relation to someone/to the situation as a whole
2) a reminder of “trauma” (as psychology understands it) – in this sense, rather than guilt, but shame, often unfounded (I can't formulate why I'm ashamed, from the series ” what will people say!”)
in summary: I think that the feeling of guilt, if it is not chronic, has a specific basis and is not based on your injuries and fears, but rather a positive phenomenon, as it can guide actions intuitively in the right direction, lead to reconciliation, forgiveness, and rejection of aggression. otherwise, I would consult a specialist, because the total and persistent feeling of guilt is most likely just a symptom of some completely unnecessary mental state for you