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In order to act in the world, you need energy. Energy is given to a person by actual needs that need to be met. They create meaning and engagement. In other words, we all act for something important to ourselves. If the activity does not have its own meaning, the energy is not replenished. As a result, exhaustion and destruction of the body occurs.
Just understanding one's own meanings, that is, what I get for myself in this or that activity, is called selfishness. In this sense, you can't do without it. And selfish motives here can even be the creation of beauty and caring for others – after all, I get something for myself. Satisfaction, for example.
However, there is another type of selfishness – when I not only take care of myself, but also sincerely believe and even demand that everyone around me also put my interests above their own.
Which of these two forms of selfishness is more selfish?)
The term “selfishness” can have many different meanings.
I understand this term as a combination of arrogance, greed, and impatience: self-directed interactions at the expense of others.
I can't agree either that altruism is a form of selfishness, although altruism can be fanatically unhealthy (according to the scheme “others at the expense of self – destruction”), or that selfishness is the engine of a person.
Selfishness is a brake on development, not the engine of a person, and in my opinion, it cannot be healthy.
There are other meanings of this term that can be used in conjunction with the words “healthy” or “engine”, but I do not use them, so as not to get confused.
The scheme of healthy interaction is built on a mutually beneficial win-win scheme: everyone wins.
I already gave an answer to a similar question and I hope no one will consider it bad form if I throw off that answer of mine.
Selfishness is absolutely normal and natural for a person. Selfishness allows us to think about ourselves and take care of our lives, our health, etc. It is essential for the survival of the individual.
But not everything is so simple. Selfishness can also harm both the person and others. I don't know if people who are willing to go over their heads to achieve their goals are happy. I really don't know.
Let's imagine that selfishness is a kind of “psychological organ”. It's just there. And as an organ, it can work normally, or it can be in a painful state.
The lack of healthy selfishness, by the way, can cause harm, and not just bloated. Well, for example, when you do people a disservice without thinking about yourself ,you feel sorry for everyone, you help everyone, but you don't have the time, energy, or desire for yourself.
In some cases, it is useful to say: Can I think about myself first?
And in some cases: I am not alone in this world and it is worth thinking about those aroundclose to me.
It's good when “you know when to choose the first” option, and when to choose the second. And here are the extreme forms:lack of healthy selfishness or bloated selfishness is not good to eat
Selfishness has been the main driving force since the first songs.
The whole economy is based on the theory of A. Smith:
“It is not from the benevolence of the butcher, the brewer, or the baker that we expect to receive our dinner, but from their consideration of their own interests. We do not appeal to their humanity, but to their selfishness, and We tell them not about our needs, but about their benefits.”
It seems to me that yes, selfishness is a healthy phenomenon. Because there are no people without selfishness — it is absolutely normal to wish for something better for yourself and worry about your own skin (a banal instinct of self-preservation). Let's face it — even when we help a person for free, there is a tick somewhere in the back of our mind: “I helped him, he owes me.” So what's the point of altruism?
Unhealthy selfishness, in my opinion, is when a person rushes to his goal over other people's heads. When they set up a colleague, when they betray a friend, and so on.
I raise my head proudly and admit that I am an EGOTIST. At the same time, I like to help others, I get an unreal thrill when my help is somehow given in the life of another person. But I believe in karma and I believe that my good will come back to me.
Selfishness is different. If you give pleasure to yourself at the expense of others, at the expense of destroying the world-this is very bad.
Healthy and reasonable selfishness is fine. A wise person understands perfectly well that when he does good to other people or the world, he does it better for himself. This is no worse than just doing good to yourself. Because the soul in all these cases gets a positive experience and gets closer to God. And this is the meaning of life.
I'll leave it here:
To me, selfishness seems to be a problem for the individual, and nothing more. Usually they say about him: “he thinks only of himself.” This is simply a lack of empathy. You are freezing with a fellow passenger at a bus stop, and all the time you think “I'm cold”, but you don't even think “he's cold”, even though he is in the same conditions and the same as you. So much for selfishness – ” the great and terrible.” And it turns out this is most often because you grow up alone – and the ability to hear the other does not develop.
So selfishness is not the engine of progress. If you want to earn money, do what someone needs. Also, do not mix selfishness and priorities of a biological individual. Selfishness does not consist in promoting yourself first, but in not recognizing the same needs of your fellow students.
And yes, I'm selfish. And because of this, I feel like a kind of mentally disabled person, and not “something healthy”.
There is self-care, self-love and caring for others, love for others. Egoism, narcissism, altruism (!), egocentrism – these are things of a neurotic nature. And altruism is ALSO NOT a healthy thing and does not lie in a place with care and love for one's neighbor. Because if you are punished, then there is fear, anxiety, anything else, But not healthy love.
Below they also say that selfishness is a property characteristic of a person by default. This is true, but in infancy, when he is fighting for survival. Even before school, the child adapts to understand their own needs, opportunities and the needs of others