- Why did everyone start to hate the Russians if the U.S. did the same thing in Afghanistan, Iraq?
- What needs to be corrected in the management of Russia first?
- Why did Blaise Pascal become a religious man at the end of his life?
- How do I know if a guy likes you?
- When they say "one generation", how many do they mean?
For example, here are excerpts from my next book, in addition to phrases about Stockholm syndrome and the lack of experience of normal relationships (my sister had them, but it didn't help her, because children, a business and an apartment registered to her husband are not the same as just a relationship):�
“Getting tired is the easiest thing to do,” a beautiful girl once said. The phrase has been echoing in my head ever since. Suffering, by the way, is also the easiest thing to do, so masochistic scenarios of life when a girl marries a psychopath who humiliates and beats her-this has become a classic. You see, we are in so much pain, but this pain is so phantom that often we are looking for a way to get real pain, to stop burning in a cold fire. It is much more unbearable than real suffering, so the expectation of punishment is much more terrible than its fulfillment.”
“And how did you explain to yourself why wives allow their husbands to beat them and mock them in every possible way? This is an incredible superpower to leave reality, your own life, and be unaffected by it, not to let it do this to you. Don't let reality tell you that you made a mistake, that you lost, that you need to make an effort to change your life. These people are happy to put in less effort than they have to. That's the whole reason for their hell. It seems to them a lesser evil than the work that a single wife has to do to support herself. Or, a person of either sex will be afraid to face some condemnation from relatives if the matter has gone too far and you pretended that everything is fine with you. The problem becomes more complicated if you tell your family what a wonderful wife you have. And when you're going to get a divorce, no one will understand you at all if you don't put in a huge amount of effort. And this whole situation loads a person, and under its influence, under the influence of really happening things, a person locks himself in the pocket of subjective happiness, in the pocket of any compensating things that can still allow a person to pretend that everything is good (to lie). Surely you haven't consulted families when you see their happy Instagram: This is the Mecca of lies, its ultimate and all-powerful abode. People seem to exist in two different universes at the same time, and this may suit them. My sister is currently married, and I know what the human brain is capable of.”
If you don't stay, the chances are too high that you won't be able to cope, starve to death, and so on. It's too complicated, because everything has gone too far and you can only take it out for two people. Some situations are easier, so people break up there. There are hopeless situations even from the point of view of lack of money or inability to earn money on their own (one of my clients was disabled due to her husband's mistake on the road). Anything can happen. It's not usually because of the good life that they do this. Judging the family, society, fear of being a bad mother who will deprive children of their father, and so on. Too much. Many. Reasons.
There are several variations here:�
Of course, this is a figurative typology, and each situation needs to be dealt with individually. But I hope you've found some answer for yourself.