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  1. Unfortunately, it is not possible to test this theory, because without education at all, I have Mowgli children everywhere, no one becomes a person.

  2. The role of parenting is generally meaningless, since children will still copy the character of their parents! Rather, in pedagogy, it is necessary to introduce a mandatory section “educating yourself and working on yourself”. A banal example: a parent teaches a child to be honest and not greedy, to share, and all he does is cheat and steal. Then his child grows up, for example, a drug addict, and the parent wonders how it is, I did not raise him like this: oh nooo! Of course, not like this, but even worse, because, as you know, children will surpass their parents! If the parent is impudent, the child will be even more impudent, if kind, then even kinder! Or example two: a mother who doesn't really “want a better future for her daughter than she did” sends her daughter to ballet school to improve her posture, discipline, etc., and eats sausage sandwiches at night, thinking that her daughter won't find out anyway. Isn't that hypocrisy? How will your daughter grow up? And it is not known where this “platinum will break”

  3. Dear Dmitry, Mikhail Afanasyevich Bulgakov, I think I would be displeased with you for your wording, because: “There are no evil people in the world, there are only unhappy people.” What kind of “rotten people” are they? Is there mold in their ears?

    We do not exaggerate the importance of education, we simply cannot realize the fact that everything in our world is delicious. The conditions that you think are good are not for everyone. That is, you plant the same seed in different soil and are surprised that somewhere the bush is healthy, and somewhere stunted.

    All people are different, just someone YOU like more SPECIFICALLY is a “beautiful” person, and someone less is immediately “rotten”.

    And even if you wrote it abstractly and nominally, but a list of names immediately popped up in your head. You have insulted all these people in your thoughts right now. Instead, ask yourself the following question: “What did I do to make them even a little bit better?”

    I apologize if I got personal or wrote something too abruptly, I hope that you understand my main point – don't look for problems in others, look for problems in yourself.

    Well, I would also call the way many parents I know communicate with children not education, but training:) Parenting cannot be imposed, and mamapapas think that it is possible – as a result, the child is brought up anywhere, but not at home.

    So I will also give the most universal advice to parents for any occasion in life – do not treat children as property. No way!

  4. You don't differentiate between concepts. They were brought up in terrible conditions, but THEY were BROUGHT UP by their relatives and friends. And vice versa, there was everything, but most likely education from parents, most likely, was not at all.

    Importance of the role of education (social component)as such, just do not exaggerate at all, and the role of the material component is hyperbolized. But this is normal specifically for our world with such ideas about many things.

    When people say that all the problems are from childhood, it may seem silly or strange at first glance. But in fact, if you delve into the sensory perceptions of specific “surface problems” that a person voices, it turns out that their causes are much deeper than they were voiced. And just these deep aspects of the problem are usually solved in childhood.

  5. We are not exaggerating. Parenting is as important as anything can be. It is clear that there are different exceptional people. But what is the probability of finding a diamond in a pile of dirt? Not zero, yes. But insignificant. In 97% of rotten environments, rotten people grow up. And “everything” often means everything except love and the personal attention of parents, so the behavior of the golden youth, for example, is not surprising.

  6. You always need to take into account the nuances. What do you mean by “terrible conditions”? What does “excellent conditions” mean? There are poor families where the child is loved, and there are rich ones where the child is littered with food, clothes and devices, but the parents do not care about him – they buy him off with all these nishtyaks. And the child feels it. And takes revenge.

  7. It's not us who bring them up,it seems to us that we are teachers for our children, everything is more primitive and simpler-children copy their parents,someone will not like it,but this is the truth, the undisguised truth.

  8. Good afternoon, I know a lot of families where the parents were alcoholics and drug addicts, but the children grew up and became decent people.I am sure that the example of parents is completely irrelevant here.

  9. The whole riddle is a combination of different aspects of life, character, and individual characteristics. I think that genetics and the environment roughly correlate with each other as 50/50. There may be a skew in one direction or the other. I don't agree with the Mozart comment. Mozart became Mozart under the influence of his father. This is the goal of my father's upbringing. If he wanted to make a mathematician out of his son, and the child was very clever at solving problems, then it is not yet known whether he wrote the 40th symphony)))

  10. Personally, I do not think that the role of education is exaggerated, it is actually very, very important for the child and his development as a person. But still, education is not the only thing that affects the development of certain traits, worldviews, and views of a person. The character of a person, his personality is formed throughout his life, but of course the foundations are laid in childhood. And everything that happens to him at this time, in one way or another affects his development and formation as a person. But the life of a child is not limited only to parents, home and upbringing in the family. There is also a kindergarten, a yard and a group of peers, a school with teachers and classmates, friends, various sections and circles, and even media, books, the Internet, and so on. And all this is also involved in the formation of the child's character and worldview. And in general, everything that happens to a child to some extent forms his personality. Family education, although undoubtedly an important part, is not the only one. That's the first thing.

    And secondly, not all conditions that at first glance seem beautiful from the outside are actually so. And it may well be that successful, rich, seemingly educated and intelligent parents, in fact, do not give the child anything in fact in moral terms, although they provide well financially. Gifts, money, great clothes, iPhones, a beautiful expensive school, the best sections and courses – all this is there, but there is no main thing-understanding, support, real sincere care, the ability to listen and hear the child. And maybe even worse, parents are not just unable to properly raise a child, but by some actions they instill in him not the best features or even undermine the child's psyche, and often without realizing it. But from the outside, this family seems ideal, exemplary and raising a child in excellent conditions. This is just an example.

    But each case is special, even in the most seemingly wonderful family, due to some circumstances that do not always depend on the parents, a “rotten” person can grow up, as you write. And a child who was raised in “bad” conditions can become a great person in the future. And it is not always the fault or merit of the family. And there is nothing so strange about it.. �

    But this does not mean that education can be ignored. Personally, in my opinion, it is difficult to overestimate its role in the life of a child. But proper education is still not primarily about material well-being, not instilling good manners and” correct ” moral values, and not even education, it's more about relationships with the child and attitude to your child. The main thing is not to instill some values in him, but to teach him to evaluate everything independently and depending on the situation, to teach him to love himself and always take care of himself, but at the same time not to be absolutely egocentric, to provide him not so much with material things as with a sense of love, need, security, support from the family. This is real parenting. And then the child, I am sure, in the future will become an adult, self-sufficient, successful, and most importantly happy person.

  11. It is still necessary to educate, initially there are not so many saints from birth and pathological villains, and the average person is quite trainable, nurtured and adapts to the environment. The density of people is now high, and a certain generally accepted interface is needed for communication and the manifestation of their impulses-which is what education provides

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