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  1. I would not want to belittle the merits of singles, and although for all their inconsistency and sometimes befuddled by melancholic fits, they are not alone. A loner is a self-sufficient person who has an independent and original view of the world, most often a convinced fanatic, adept and preacher of the “true religion”, the postulates of which were derived independently or adopted from some idea.

    They are not necessarily alone. All people have a social nature, everyone needs communication, but in this case it is somewhat specific. His main friends are himself and the Idea. You can draw inspiration through communication with” spiritual fathers ” – people whom he admires( in a positive sense), their biographies, writings, works, up to correspondence and personal diaries. In the course of dating, ask some questions, the answers to which will later pop up themselves. The second resource is life experience. Once they enter society, they become either observers or initiators (most likely, this happens consistently). After collecting data from the world around them, they go to their own world to analyze the information they receive. If there is a discrepancy between what you know and what you see, questions may arise that will be answered over time. But he's still young. Rather quickly gaining wisdom, learning to intuitively read people, determine the main motives of their activities, he begins to think about his campaigns and turn them into life. He may sometimes use very limited terms, but what can you do – he is a very strong egocentric person in his own right. Although in general, he guesses the directions.

    It does not tolerate masks, weak people who are forced to hide their Self under the weight of social roles and encouraged norms of behavior-just like that or for the sake of profit. In this connection, the social circle is carefully filtered in order to prevent the presence of “rats” nearby; all sorts of checks are made for the durability of connections, similarity of interests, and ways of thinking. However, he is not necessarily limited to internal dialogue -he can maintain open connections with hundreds of people, while remaining true to himself and not feeling dependent, being a full – fledged member of society-he may even like to enter into any layers, the only question is the length of stay. You see, he is at home everywhere, because the house is in him.�

    Commitment to ideals and your own principles, the desire to bring them to life gives a person a remarkable will and ability to concentrate, so the search for friends through trial and error ends quite early. Realizing that friends bring with them a change in worldview and pull the blanket of your interests in their direction, most often (due to inexperience) carry a negative impact, realizing the possibility of their betrayal or sudden insight about the discrepancy with your ideas about a friend, a loner early becomes the main companion to himself. At the same time, he, like everyone else, needs a partner. The one who will pull him down, lower him to the ground, make objective comments, direct energy, support him during the next decline. The one who will not allow you to lock yourself in your thoughts, in switching roles, in moments of internal disputes (your ideals are also criticized, and the experience is repeatedly rethought-all this requires an opponent). However, the search for such people takes the best years, and sometimes they pass by each other before they have time to become acquaintances, precisely because of their inability to understand people (yes, a contradiction, but singles draw rather general conclusions, think in categories- �they do not have such a rich experience of close communication). While they are not there, a person replaces a whole number of important people with images for himself, they seem to be components of his personality, and at certain moments he looks at himself from the outside with their eyes or their manner of communication leads internal dialogues with himself. It reprimands itself, encourages it, notices its shortcomings, and compiles programs to address its shortcomings.

    I can't speak for all singles – they have the same variety of fates and characters as sociable guys, but following the example of an energetic type with a tendency to extroversion, I'll conclude by going through the following questions: keeps up with the spirit, feeds on the biographies of other outstanding singles; internal questions are addressed to yourself or to experience as your own father; absolutely full-fledged (except for lack of feelings);

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