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  1. Interesting question. Change yourself for the better-so that what? And for everyone ,the “best side” has something different, right? Universal habits – live clean, brush your teeth, say hello, drink a glass of water after waking up. Call your mother every day, read a book, and play with your child. Run in the morning, run in the evening, clean up after yourself, fast 1 time a week. Showering every morning, seeing a therapist every week, playing soccer on Fridays… you can go on indefinitely. But the most important thing is probably the meaning. Meaning and awareness, what you want to become better at and why. Better than others, better than yesterday's self?

    This is a great question, because it makes you think and raises even more questions.

  2. Just 4 habits that can seriously change your life.

      1. Stop reading the news

    The purpose of news is to capture negative attention and sell ads to viewers. Do you need it?

    Colleagues or friends will tell you what is really important. Anything else isn't worth your time.

      1. Start reading good books

    When you're free from news, invest your time in reading good books.

    Good books are those that enrich you, deepen your understanding of the world, teach you something, and give you aesthetic pleasure at last.

    Reading books is nothing more than the author's communication with readers. Isn't that magic?

    We can learn from people who are already dead or very successful people we will never have access to, like Ray Dalio, for example.

    “Invest” because the habit of reading will make you smarter, even if at first its benefits are not visible.

    Even if you read 15 minutes a day or one book a month, in a year's time you will have read 12 great books, each of which will give you at least 1 new idea.

    What will 12 months of news or TV shows do for you?

      1. Get enough sleep

    It is proven that lack of sleep negatively affects mental abilities, weakens the immune system, leads to obesity and many other bad things.

    Don't skimp on sleep. When we borrow something, we always give back the trinity.

      1. Move

    Ideally, find a sport that will bring you pleasure. Start with 2 minutes a day (the power of small steps is explained here).

    Running, lifting weights, cycling-no matter what, as long as you enjoy it.

    People were created to move, not sit for 8 hours in front of a computer.

    If you can't do sports, then at least take a break from work for these 5 exercises (it takes 5 minutes).

    There are a lot of good habits to recommend, but I would call these fundamental ones.

  3. Change yourself without changing yourself… The most basic habit for changing yourself for the better will be to learn to trust yourself, listen to yourself and not think, but feel
    Because a good change, if it goes against the desire of the Soul, will be lost. Learn to listen and hear your Soul, and you will be happy

  4. To begin with, I would answer the question “what is for the better”. This best side – what is it? what image do you have when you think about it? What is your role in this image? Who are you? What qualities do you have there?

    and gradually unwinding this metaphor, we would come to understand the changes that you need.

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  5. I think the first and most important thing is to be able to feel yourself and your desires. Agree, it is difficult to change yourself if you don't even know what you want to change.

    From understanding your desires, you can move on to building goals. After all, desires don't come out of nowhere: if they appear in your head, it means that it is something close to you. It is also important to distinguish your true desires from those imposed on you.

    Once you understand these basics, it will be easier to determine what specific habits will be needed to change in the desired direction. For example, we want to start running in the morning: we determine why we need it, what benefits we will get from it. I want to run to become slimmer – to do this, we form the habit of getting up earlier in the morning. What matters is the motivation that suits you.

  6. Get enough sleep. You need to know how long you need to sleep to wake up refreshed (it's not about “more”, but about the phases of sleep), and stick to this amount.

    Drink water. If you want coffee, drink coffee. If you are thirsty, drink water.

    Walk. Go on foot, ride a bike.

    Change little things, shake your brain: brush your teeth with a different hand, go home a new way, listen to new music.

    Read good books, watch good movies.

    Look around you. Go on excursions in your city, pay attention to a beautiful house, an interesting tree, cool graffiti, street musicians. Appreciate it.

    Don't judge people. Don't put labels on it. It's kick-ass as hard as it gets, but it's worth it. Free up your mindset.

    Don't waste your nerves on bullshit: don't get mad at the queues, traffic jams, or the weather, you are unlikely to affect anything, and no one will heal your nerves.

    Try new things. Don't be afraid to get a new haircut or put on an unusual outfit.

    Don't wait for the eternal approval of others, especially strangers on the street. If you were told that your yellow jacket is not solid, and the transfer tattoo is stupid, smile and go further, they are wrong.

    Do not harm anyone, do not wish evil, respect others, be polite – ” everyone you meet is fighting a battle that you know nothing about.” Listen to yourself, listen to your loved ones.

    Learn how to organize your workday, set a timer (I love the pomodoro system and forest timing), for example, 25 minutes of work / 5 minutes of rest, generally give yourself a rest, this only improves productivity.

    Learn new things. Learn more. Take courses, attend lectures, try to draw or ride a horse.

    Don't choose between work/family/loved ones. Don't run your teeth! Sort the trash.

  7. 1) Understand yourself (why I reacted this way, what I want now, etc. Helps you avoid mechanical actions and understand other people)

    2) Do not take anything for granted, as my head teacher used to say: “Constantly ask yourself the question: How do I know what I know?”

    3) Try to understand others before judging them. Very builds relationships with loved ones, and with yourself in the end

    4) Write down good ideas. You'll definitely forget it, even if it doesn't seem like it

    5) Have breakfast, preferably oatmeal. Monitor your diet and read about it. In general, oddly enough, one vitamin supplement or some glycine may be what you need. The brain is still chemistry.

    6) Observe and draw conclusions, do not flog the fever

    7) Read / watch good movies

  8. It depends on what you mean by changing yourself for the better. The Internet is filled with various, blurry articles about “what you need to do to become a better person” basically everything boils down to getting up at 6 in the morning, orange juice, exercise, reading and learning something new.

    If you reduce it to specifics, it will be like this: reading and favorite business.

    A habit that will make you a better all-rounder is reading. The web has long compiled lists of worthy books that have passed the test of time, so you can gradually increase the time spent on reading . With each book you read, you will become more familiar with the world, people, and so on, which means you will be better off.

    In addition to reading ,your vocation will help you become better. Becoming the best at what you do, you will certainly be a more confident person. Therefore, it is worth making a habit of doing your own business as much as possible and expanding your knowledge in the right area for you, even if your work is your vocation.

    Good habits will not make you “better” as is now generally accepted.

    For example, Winston Churchill. A man who had almost no healthy habits, but nevertheless lived a decent life, had a significant impact on the course of the Second World War, an honorary member of the British Academy and winner of the Nobel Prize in Literature.

  9. Getting up at 6am, for example, is a very good habit. But the main thing is to plan what exactly you will do in the evening when you wake up at the crack of dawn. And then you can wake up and hang out on the Internet, what was the use of setting an alarm?

    I consider a daily press review to be a useful habit. Still, it's useful to know what's going on in the world and right under your nose. I don't know, maybe the journalist is talking to me.

    Another good thing to do is plan. And be able to plan both your day, week, and year. This makes it easier to move towards your goals.

    I'm not even talking about charging and reading – daily retouals. Well, 2 liters of water a day, friends!

  10. Personally, I changed my daily life thanks to a few new habits :

    1) first, of course, I turned to the press, every day I read the morning broadcast of the village, helps to stay up to date on events in completely different areas of life ;

    2) started listening to new music to my ear, helps develop my taste;

    3) you should also give preference to documentary films, this allows you to gain knowledge, rather than mindlessly absorb the “masterpieces” of current cinematography;

    Summing up, to develop yourself as a person, you need to “feed” your brain with the right food.

  11. basic – talk less, talk more. you will get rid of unnecessary promises, empty chatter and just junk that clogs your brain

    understand that often what we pay for, we can easily do it ourselves without much difficulty. Well, sometimes the desire to save money will give you new skills and abilities.

    when you realize that there are other necessary things in life besides work, family, relationships and other obligatory nonsense for an important person, then your horizons will expand. To repeat , you were created not only to work in the office and find a person to make children.

  12. Consuetudo est altera natura…habit is second nature. Nature is nature. It is logical to assume that after the age of 18 (21), a person becomes responsible for reactions, thoughts, actions and actions. According to the nature with which he was born, which he picked up in the family, peeked at in society.
    Absolutely any new habit at a conscious age is work. Any work can both ennoble, if overcoming and defeating laziness you see the result in well-being, become more tolerant, more resilient, more productive than yourself yesterday, and do not do a good service in the form of discontent, irritability, guilt in outbursts of self-flagellation.
    Have fun, smile at everyone from getting up at 5 in the morning and running, if you regularly go to bed at one in the morning, plus you've never run a problem even for a runner with experience after a break.
    Therefore, the most important thing for success will be the development of a taste for habit and the art of small steps. Learn to enjoy a habit and it will become part of your nature 😉

  13. All of the above habits can be useful and useless, depending on the person's life goals and the rhythm of his life.

    The only habit that is absolutely useful for everyone (including all ages) is to drink 1.5 d of water a day.:)

  14. What is a habit? Behaviors, behaviors, and inclinations that have become common and permanent in a person's life.

    How is a habit formed? It occurs as a result of repeated repetition of the same action – when it ceases to require volitional and cognitive efforts.

    In order to determine which habits will help change you for the better, you need to understand what you mean by “better side”. Set a goal; how you want to see yourself in the end. Based on this, see what habits will be useful to you.

    I can recommend the most basic thing I use:

    1) Learn to get up early and go to bed on time. This is not easy if you are already used (it is easier to form a habit in a clean place, rather than first remove one, and then form another in its place) to lie down and get up when you are lucky. But believe me, it's worth it. You'll have more time to do it, and you'll feel better.

    2) Before going to bed, do not eat too much, do not watch movies (especially heavy ones), do not play games. All this does not allow the brain to “prepare” for rest and it will work. The result – in the morning you are broken and did not get enough sleep.Better take an evening walk in the fresh air.

    3) Go outside for at least an hour every day. And also do exercises in the morning(no matter how trite it may sound, but spend at least 5 minutes on it and you will only be a plus).

    Your health = Your productivity = Your success.

    4) Learn not to procrastinate. There was a case-I did it. Then at the end of the week you will not be afraid of an impenetrable mountain of cases.

    5) Plan your day. Very useful when you don't know where to start, but there are a lot of things to do. Often because of this, a person does nothing at all. This way you can better imagine what you need to do and how to organize your time.

    6) Every day and always (!) do at least something for your self-development: learn languages and want to expand your vocabulary-learn N number of words per day and not less than this number; read good books, watch / listen to informative ones.

    7) Try something new, experiment. Don't be afraid. Learn to accept failure as an experience that will help you become a better person.

    Good luck!

  15. As Dmitry Bykov said, you should always wash the dishes after eating, this is a very useful habit.

    And these are suggestions for a detailed response.

  16. The habit of counting money is one of those things that both makes you better (more aware) and helps you find the resources to become a better person. Instead of spending money on things that don't make you better or happier, you can spend it on acquiring new skills, knowledge, and improving your health and well-being.

    Once you understand how much you're spending and where you're going, you'll be able to assess how much that spending makes you better, what you should spend less on,and how much money you can free up.

    You can record your expenses at least in a notepad, but it is better to use special tools for this purpose. CoinKeeper lets you record your spending literally on the go, with just a swipe of your finger. You can create the structure of spending categories yourself, set budgets, and the app will show you how much you can fit into them.

  17. Read the advice and suggestions of all the people who have spoken here (and not only), draw up your own set of rules or “code” based on these words that responds exactly to your requests, divide them into the topics “health”, “self-development”, “leisure”, “energy sources”, etc., indicating the priority of their implementation, and strictly follow YOUR rules.

  18. personally from me

    1-think and then do/say


    3-always ask for proofs

    4-watch your step

    5-don't smack nonsense

    6-always ask yourself “am I doing some bullshit right now?”

    7-don't get caught up in nonsense

    8-turn on the head

    9-have sex more often

    10-don't overdo everything

  19. If it makes sense to change yourself in any way, it is in the direction of Awareness. And Awareness, in particular, is freedom from any patterns, dogmas and habits. Because habits are programs that we perform unconsciously, in the background. Some of them may be good for our health (for example, brushing our teeth, doing exercises), but in habits we should not lose ourselves, becoming unconscious and working for no clear reason. Ideally, it is better not to have habits, but to be aware of yourself at every moment of your life and not do anything automatically “on rails”. But if it is still difficult, then at least let the habits be meaningful, healthy, with an understandable result and tangible benefits.

  20. I recommend that you start not with habits, but try to improve yourself, your communication skills, communication, defending a point of view, overcoming fears, etc.

    In short, take care of your soft skills))

    If you find it difficult on your own, then use different courses (for example, softlyskills ru), I was once interested in debates myself, it helps a lot)

  21. Not�suggest mindlessly follow lists from�the Internet, because this will not�your rules, stick to them�will not be easy Yes�and�no reason. If you adopt all the rules in a row, then “there is a risk of wasting energy on” performing what does not ” correspond to your rhythm of life, values, and already existing habits.

    This does not mean that you should completely reject someone else's experience. It is useful to read and”analyze other people's lists of rules, but”do it critically and” choose only ” what you need. There is no magic set of qualities of an ideal person.

    It's worth taking the time to develop your own rules of life. For convenience, divide them�into�thematic categories. You can use the standard sets: career, finances, everyday life, health (mental and physical), education, personal relationships and family, friendship, appearance/image. Add or remove categories based on your circumstances.

    And�now try to imagine�what was�would your life through 3-5-10�years if�you�kept all these areas in�right?�What would you do, what activities would your day be filled with? Write your own scenario for a perfect but realistic life.

    After you have “prescribed the desired image” – go through ” each area, write down what habits you need to maintain or achieve the desired level of development.

    For example, the field of health: go to the dentist every six months for prevention, undergo a regular comprehensive examination, do eye exercises, etc. Field of education: regularly watch educational lectures, read at least an hour a day, solve logical problems and train your brain.�

    And�so on�for all areas. On�this stage, first specify the habit in�her�end, he was�if�you�her�have mastered. For example, reading for at least an hour a day.�Break the habit�small steps that will lead to�to achieve the final result: first to read 15�minutes in�week, then 20�and�next to�the desired hour.

    Each stage should be slightly higher than your current abilities, so that you “don't” relax, but “at the same time accessible, so that you don't” want to throw everything away.

    One of the most important is the habit of training your brain, which I already mentioned above. It is relevant not only for the education sector, but also for development in all other areas. The Wikium platform will help you develop brain functions such as memory, attention, and thinking. Our system works on the principle of gradual progress, which I mentioned above. Only you will not need to spend more and more time on training, only their complexity will increase. To start classes, perform an initial test that shows the current state of cognitive functions. Next, you will receive a game-like training program that you can start immediately.

  22. Getting rid of fears can hardly be called a habit, this is a difficult job that should begin in childhood, but since many people did not have time to catch this train of happiness, then at least the habit is not to listen to your fears, but to ask rationally “Why not?”and argue in the key of” If this does not cause me irreparable harm , then you need to break in without hesitation! “, “I am worthy or not worthy-let others decide, and I will do, feel, experience sensations. “

  23. Always count on yourself first and foremost. This does not mean that you can not rely on your loved ones, but it is better to always have a backup plan of action. After all, we only have ourselves.

    Always remember that you don't owe anyone anything, just as no one owes you anything (money and things borrowed don't count). This way you won't be manipulated based on guilt and debt.

    Be able to say no. Don't be ashamed to say no to people, it's okay not to do things that you don't want to do (well, except for work responsibilities and other similar situations).

  24. It seems to me that it is worth getting into one single habit – to think with your head over each of your actions. In fact, the mere fact of being able to build causal relationships will solve the motivation problem once and for all and teach you how to filter the flow of incoming information. Of course, this is difficult and tedious, but this approach will optimize your day very quickly) in any case, it's still free to think..

  25. There is one habit that can change your whole life for the better. This is the habit of going to bed early and getting up early.

    Late lights out makes sleep less deep, and important processes in the body that should turn the food eaten during the day into energy, including mental energy, slow down. Working at a computer or watching TV at night excites the mind and prevents you from falling into a deep sleep. The irritability and tiredness that starts the morning, the feeling that we haven't had enough sleep, affect all our interactions with people, especially with our loved ones. But if we go to bed early, get a good night's sleep and wake up early, if we devote valuable morning hours to meditation or prayer, think hard about what we should do today, what goals we should achieve, it will greatly change us and our whole life for the better.

    If you have managed to develop your first habit, then this habit will develop without much effort.” This is the habit of observing your mind. By developing it, you can learn to control your mind, that is, stop obeying the impulses that arise in our mind. In the end, all our problems are rooted in the fact that we simply go along with our own mind. Observation of the mind, introspection allows us to see ourselves from the outside and gradually get out of the power of innate or acquired shortcomings.

  26. In order to change for the better, it is enough to make just one habit: to love yourself for who you are. With all the advantages and disadvantages. Remember that everyone is different and no one is perfect. To know that everyone can find a job to their liking and a person who will love you for who you are. Just learn to accept yourself, and then you can accept other people without trying to change them. Live, enjoy life, and don't force yourself: that's not what you're here for.

  27. Every day, once a day, give yourself a gift. Don't plan it, don't wait for it, just let it happen. It can be a new shirt, you can take a couple of minutes to take a nap in the work chair or drink a couple of cups of good hot black coffee

  28. I will try to briefly and clearly state the basic principles and habits that I use:

    1) Remember once and for all: what was put off for later is lost. Have you postponed something for tomorrow / Monday/New year? You can think of yourself as a weakling who just couldn't handle it, that's all. Don't put anything off, do everything here and now, deal with problems as they come in. Just do it.

    2) Don't follow the news, it doesn't make sense. People around you will talk about really important things. And this endless stream of contradictory information will only fill your head and can become the basis for concern.

    3) BE SURE to learn how to type blindly. You will fully understand the value of the skill when you master it.

    4) A person quickly gets used to everything. That is why the more often you entertain yourself, the less pleasure you get from this entertainment. Potatoes with cheese sauce and a burger are divinely delicious if you go to McDonald's once a month. Walk where you can walk. Don't sleep when you can stay awake.

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