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  1. You can check the relationship for toxicity by answering a few questions:

    • Are you afraid of your partner, or are you afraid to voice your thoughts, opinions, or desires out loud?

    • Are you afraid of the sudden aggression of your partner, the outbreak of which can occur at any time?

    • Do you constantly feel guilt, helplessness, shame, or other negative emotions in your relationship with your partner?

    • Does your partner constantly devalue you, insult you, tease you, and say unpleasant things to you?

    • You started to get sick more often, feel worse, feel internal discomfort, and all this started after you entered into a relationship?

    • Do you feel that you are being controlled, your boundaries are being violated, you are being watched, you feel that you constantly owe something and are guilty of something, and you don't even fully understand what it is?

    If you answered 3 or more questions positively, then your relationship can be called toxic.

    In order to avoid relationships that can harm you, it is important to be in contact with yourself and your emotions, to understand and analyze the reasons for the appearance of negative emotions, to avoid breaking boundaries, to leave yourself space for inspiration and replenishment of resources (communication with friends, hobbies, sports, etc.).

    In fact, there are people who constantly fall into “toxic relationships”, and there are those who build harmonious relationships and feel happy. In a situation where you feel uncomfortable with your partner, but you can't influence it, or you are afraid to break up (although there is more pain than pleasure in the relationship), the reasons should be sought in unconscious fears, often in past experiences. In such a situation, working with a psychologist can help, because the goal is not only to get out/avoid toxic relationships, prevent the situation from repeating in the future, understand your vulnerabilities, desires and move towards meeting their fulfillment.

  2. Toxic relationships are characterized by the appearance of elements of communication that can harm (destroy, destroy, modify, break, disrupt, etc.) its participants.

    The damage caused can be both psychological and physical, have immediate or delayed consequences, and cause more serious circumstances.

    It is interesting that initially a chemical term, it sounds more and more in the thinking environment. And this is the original essence of what is happening, because our body perceives any threats at the biochemical, cellular and intercellular level. I.e., the reason for your bad mood is quite material and can really harm the body.

    Avoid toxic relationships, do not put up with them even in small ways, because their development can seriously harm you.

    Be healthy!

  3. Toxic relationships are relationships where there is a lack of trust.

    Toxic relationships can be viewed from the classical model of the “Karpman triangle”, where there is a tyrant, a victim and a rescuer.

    Where events can develop both in a dyadic relationship and also with a large number of participants.

    but it is worth considering one detail that the abuse will mostly be mirrored, namely: somewhere, most likely, one participant has an unconscious need to be tyrannized, that is, he acts as a victim, but in fact such a person tyrannizes over himself, often doubts himself. which ultimately leads to aggression of an internal nature. That is, the “sacrificial tyrant” does not notice it himself, can tyrannize over his loved ones, look for rescuers to shift responsibility for their feelings and emotions, situations. In a toxic relationship, there will also be a mutual secondary benefit that needs to be clarified and brought to the surface of the conscious. In a toxic relationship, there will be essentially 4 stages of a vicious circle of interaction between partners:

    Stage 1-reconciliation

    Stage 2 – euphoria from communication, when everything is suspiciously good

    Stage 3-provocation, search for something to catch on to

    Stage 4-explosion

    What can you do to avoid a toxic relationship?

    the answer is simple-learn to say no and restore boundaries, and look for secondary benefits from such relationships if you are caught in them.

    also work with self-confidence.

  4. Toxic relationships are when you want to start a family, and she is a prostitute who has a profile on the Internet and breeds you for money, and you think that she is an angel of purity from heaven.

  5. Toxic relationships are relationships that cause pain and suffering, relationships that are built on a one-goal game.�

    The flip side of this relationship is very simple – to undermine the self-esteem of your partner (that is, you), and, in fact, to use you at their discretion, to play, just like a cat with a mouse.

    It is also worth noting that people who involve an unsuspecting party(i.e., you) in such a” roller coaster ” are usually complete macchiavellians, narcissists, or with other real diagnoses.�

    In order to specifically answer the question “How not to…” without going off topic, I will probably describe the most characteristic signs that it's time for you to run.

    1) You feel an incredible kinship of soul with a person who seems to have recently met you.�

    2) In the shortest possible time, this person showers you with tender words, gifts, admires you, listens to you carefully. It seems that your future partner wants to know everything about you.�

    This, perhaps, is the end of the good news. Let's simulate the situation that you have already entered into such an amazing relationship, built on love and trust(no matter how wrong!).

    What should stress you out:

    3) Limiting your social circle, uncontrolled jealousy even to close friends. Thus, the Fatal Personality wants to deprive you of the right rear in the face of friends and relatives.

    4) Double standards and making scandals at the slightest provocation, constant monitoring, disguised as an imaginary concern.

    5) Attacks on your personality, ambitions, etc. under the guise of: “This is just a joke. How sensitive you are, you don't understand humor!”

    6) Pathological lies. For example, you witnessed a blatant flirtation on the part of your passion in social networks.perhaps you feel uncomfortable and express your anger, to which you get an equally quick response: “I'm offended by this attitude, don't you trust me?”

    7) Attempts to distort your vision of the situation:

    Based on point 6, it will look something like this:”Nothing happened, you're too jealous.”

    8) Threats to leave you without a twinge of conscience: “Yes, I'm flirting with my ex. And what's the big deal? I won't stop doing that, that's my character. If you don't like something-go away, I don't keep it”

    9) Devaluation of your feelings/experiences: “I'm tired of this argument, I'll assume that you just didn't get enough sleep.”

    10) And finally, they leave you, then come back and ask for forgiveness, then leave again, and so on ad infinitum. Remember that “I love” such a person means “I still have an interest in managing you.”

    The alternation of ” Come back, I won't do it again!”, and “Ice Shower” (read: extremely vile attitude) will continue until you firmly put an end to it. After all, this type of person has no conscience by default, and they will not leave you alone until the last moment.

    Take care of yourself, and be loved by each other.

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