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  1. A child is born helpless, but with certain needs that he meets at the expense of his parents. And in the brain of a child at a very early age, it is fixed: there are people who meet their needs. What will be served to him, brought, removed. As a person grows and matures, they should gradually gain independence. They should develop their own skills and gain experience through their own achievements. But this is done with the right upbringing of the individual. In fact, most often, parents get pleasure from the fact that they themselves serve their child as long as possible. They spoon-feed him, dress him, clean up after him, and pamper him. And, satisfying their desires to serve the child, they make a big mistake – when the child has a desire to imitate the older ones, the parents do not allow the children to pick up a rag or broom, for example, because there is no time to clean up after the child later. Reasons: I'll make it faster myself, he'll spread the dirt. And so on in many ways. Thus, the acquisition of their own experience in children from an early age is stopped. At the same time, the habit of work is not yet developed. As a result, the child takes part in the life of the family, only as an object for which “someone goes”. All his wishes are fulfilled, there are almost no duties, his parents or nannies-tutors do everything for him. If all the wishes are fulfilled, the child has a sense of the omnipotence of the parents. And since he commands them, then, naturally, faith in his own super-superpower grows stronger day by day. And besides, who wouldn't want a child to have only the best of everything? And they get a certain pleasure, flooding it with benefits or buying them off, because they can not always pay proper attention to it, but they want to compensate for their guilt in this with expensive gifts, trips and many other things that other children can not boast of. This sense of omnipotence is constantly reinforced, especially in families where parents can afford a lot.

    The period of teenage separation, everyone goes through. This is the period when grown-up children begin to devalue everything around them in order to rise in their own eyes. We all know him – during this period, parents were called ancestors, rodaks, teachers were teachers, they solved the problem of settling-not-settling the neighbor's car, they were bold and “took on a show-off”. But everyone comes out of this period in different ways. Faced with the first difficulties of life, if there are no “all-resolving” parents behind their backs, some teenagers begin to think about how to live and look for solutions, stuffing bumps and accumulating experience. And those who have been overprotected with all the best in addition, the experience of confronting life's difficulties will not be acquired. The belief of such a person in his own omnipotence lives in the subconscious-the relatives still work for his benefit flawlessly, protecting him from any difficulties. But the same parents, rendering all this, expect some return from their child. There is no place to give back, because there is no experience of personal achievements, self-criticism in this case does not have a fulcrum. This is how a person enters adulthood who is not ready for it, is capricious and demanding. But this problem can only be observed from the outside. Such young people do not realize their true problems. Do not understand and parents where they missed in education. And their children, accustomed only to consume, can successfully do only this-consume.

    In the people, the children of such parents received a separate definition – “majors” – for these qualities.

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