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    1. A sincere intention to improve the target of your criticism. That is, an unclouded belief that the pressure of shame motivates a person out of extreme horror and shame to take yes and start doing better. The immortal ” Pull yourself together, rag!” – Especially not to dodge if it's like a short circuit: from yourself to yourself.

    Brr… It's disgusting.

    1. Most often, the unconscious: to rise above the criticized person. I am the best!

    2. Even more unconscious: ousting the fear that it is I who am or may be like this, and projecting myself onto the target of criticism. If I bark at a person that they are STUPID!! – this is right automatically for myself and others means that everything is all right with me, I am-wow, just wonderfully smart. Yeah, yeah…

    In short, as usual, almost any behavior has several causes at the same time, most of which the person himself is not very aware of…

  1. The point of destructive criticism, just like any other, is to correct mistakes and nothing more. Whether it is destructive or not is the problem of the “recipient”, not criticism. You just need to be able to extract a rational grain, DESPITE the form in which criticism is exposed. For it is THE ESSENCE. Still, other things are details that can be caused by a lot of different reasons. It's just that there are people who are able to perceive the essence of the statement, and there are those who are receptive only to its form. These latter are first of all deprived of themselves. To the critic, it's up to him to say (“crow”), and then — “at least don't break the dawn”…

  2. Here it would be necessary to determine for whom it is destructive – for the critic, for the criticized person, or for the cause?

    Based on this understanding, it will be possible to move on, but how else?

    1. If it is destructive for the critic , then nothing terrible will happen, just everyone who needs it will see that the critic is not a critic, but a critic, and they will pay less attention to him.

    The meaning for managers is positive.

    1. If it is destructive for the criticized person, then this is a lesson for him, because he himself made a mistake, inaccuracy, or was too accurate, which caused a wave of anger.

    The meaning for the person being criticized is positive.

    1. Criticism is destructive for the case – the meaning is more than positive, because the dismissal of the critic will have a positive impact on the case.

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