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  1. We are taught from childhood that we must be good at everything, this creates an idealistic image that we “must” conform to and often we are punished for mistakes, without being able to correct them.
    Therefore, the recognition of one's own mistakes is unpredictable. There is an internal weighing of all the pros and cons, assessing the significance of relationships and the consequences of admitting one's own guilt. When you admit guilt, it turns out that you are directly admitting your imperfection. And this is scary. It's scary to be vulnerable to another person…
    A person who is able to accept the fact that he is not perfect, accepts that he may be wrong-it is easier to apologize.

  2. What prevents a person from admitting their guilt and apologizing?

    Fear, irrational guilt, inability to take responsibility.

    Why is this phenomenon spontaneous and predictable?

    I don't really understand what you're talking about…

    As for me, this phenomenon is absolutely predictable.

    When 80% of parenting consists of bullying, instilling feelings of guilt in the child and depriving him of the opportunity to make his own decisions – where will the people who can calmly and with dignity apologize come from?

  3. This is the fear of being vulnerable to others, so a person protects their self-esteem. Of course, this is a self-deception, since protection is illusory and the person himself is deeply aware of this somewhere and hides it in the unconscious. The desire to be good and accepted in society is a need for security, one of the basic requirements for survival. Therefore, this behavior is common to many. Those who have gone through a period of development and were able to achieve security, accepting themselves and others as they are, are ready to admit their guilt and change, realizing that this is a valuable experience.

  4. There are several reasons. One is not understanding your own guilt. Because people are different and each person considers himself a good person.. , therefore, does not recognize his guilt and considers himself right. The second reason is selfishness, pride, when a person considers himself humiliated in this case. The very word “ask” is already a brake on them. Personally, I can apologize for my joint. if my conscience torments me. In other cases, I won't ask . because I believe that I have the right to make a mistake . or be bad. and that doesn't mean it's my fault..

  5. Pride and excessive ESP, but I think there's another reason. If you admit your guilt or wrongness once, in the next similar situation, your opponent will already have an advantage over you. Let's say you were actively arguing with a person about the outcome of a football match. Thinking that you were absolutely right, you unintentionally raised your voice and shouted at your friend. As a result, he was offended, and besides, he guessed the outcome of the match. You're sorry. Next time you start talking about a flat earth: a friend is sure it's flat, you're sure it's not. You discuss-discuss and then your interlocutor throws the phrase ” Here you always argue with me, and then I'm right.” And yet, despite the stupidity of the statement itself(after all, the outcome of the match and the shape of the Ground are different and incommensurable things), you may be morally depressed or just start to prove him wrong even more violently, perhaps by going on to shout.
    Of course, admitting guilt is necessary, but this is just an example when an apology does not play in your favor.

  6. What does it mean to admit your guilt? For example, someone thinks that you are guilty. The following options are available here:
    1. Are you really to blame
    2. You don't feel guilty
    In the second case:
    1. You really believe that you are not guilty and are not guilty of anything, the one who accuses you uses this as a means of pressure
    2. You also don't feel guilty, but the person who accuses you really believes that you are guilty.
    It all depends on the specific situation. In one system of values, a person can be guilty, in another – not. A person can be accused unfairly and convince others of this, and he admits guilt under pressure. A person can understand that he is guilty, but not admit it in order to avoid conviction.
    Much depends on the characteristics of the people themselves. A person can sincerely believe that he is so smart and correct, which means that in principle he cannot be guilty. Therefore, not only does he not admit that he is guilty, but on the contrary, he will find someone to blame for everything.
    There are many situations, but there is no universal answer. Some are too limited to understand their guilt, others have very flexible morals and you can expect any meanness from them.

  7. The fact that each person has his own picture of the world, and in it he is right. It's like in the movies, we are initially positioned “good “characters as “good”, although they can kill, rob banks and do other ” bad ” things. Just in this film, the director decided that this hero is positive and brought his picture of the world to the public. The ability to take the place of another person and realize that in a different picture of the world you may be wrong is an important quality. But how would our psyche function if we were not at the center of our worldview, but it consisted of continuous projections of the worldview of others? They would have been caught between the gallows and the pedestal. So on the one hand, the inability to admit one's guilt stems from a vital feature of the psyche, on the other, it is definitely necessary to work on it and learn to take the place of another person and admit your own mistakes without compromising your self-esteem.

  8. Depending on the context of the situation and the circumstances in which this or that situation followed, it is quite difficult for a person to admit Their own guilt.�

    It all comes down to a sense of responsibility. Responsibility for the conflict.�

    If you admit your own Guilt in the conflict, then automatically, All the consequences of this conflict will fall on the side of the “apologizer” and define him as a person “unable to control his own emotions”. No one wants to be in this role. It is easier to defend your “truth”. And, at the expense of this, raise your own selfishness and inability to solve problems. Again, while avoiding responsibility.�

    The responsibility associated with getting out of a conflict situation often involves an Apology. Here, then, there are a lot of “pitfalls”. The form, intonation, and facial expressions of the person apologizing are important. This is the same specific and complex role, where emotions and meaning are also involved.�

    Thus, a person in conflict pursues two goals: a) to preserve (protect) your own point of view, while avoiding responsibility. b) avoids unnecessary energy expenditure, expressed in the development of a “new psycho-emotional role”.�

    And, it is these two “stumbling blocks” that do not even give a person an eventful opportunity to Apologize.

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