- Why did everyone start to hate the Russians if the U.S. did the same thing in Afghanistan, Iraq?
- What needs to be corrected in the management of Russia first?
- Why did Blaise Pascal become a religious man at the end of his life?
- How do I know if a guy likes you?
- When they say "one generation", how many do they mean?
It is scientifically established that in others we are annoyed only by what we subconsciously know about ourselves, but do not want to admit it.
Then the question arises: how can the kindness and politeness that I have in me annoy me? This is nonsense!
Apparently, by kindness and politeness, you do not mean kindness and politeness, but sycophancy and a desire to please the interlocutor at any cost.
True politeness and kindness are first of all self-respect, self-acceptance, and in this context they cannot be annoying
As with all irritants, it is worth looking for the cause of this phenomenon – it can lie both on your side and on the side of your counterpart.
Perhaps you feel insincere, perhaps you think this behavior is strange/self-serving, or you consider yourself not worthy of such an attitude
You can't be too kind or too polite. If you are annoyed by the “kindness” or” politeness ” in the behavior of specific individuals, they may be hypocritical, or this is how their complexes manifest themselves. That is, this is not the true face of these people, but only a mask. Sincere kindness or politeness does not cause irritation, it is unobtrusive and inconspicuous.�
Therefore, the answer is quite simple – do not communicate with those who annoy you, or if this is not possible, minimize contact. Your nerves are more expensive.