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Try to count on yourself in matters that are important to you.
To believe is to hope inwardly that the person will meet your expectations and do something exactly as you want. That is, you make yourself a victim of deception and betrayal.�
Trust means allowing a person to do something on their own, as they want and can.
Trusting someone, you need to think ahead to further actions in case the person can not help you. For example, a typical mistake of newlyweds-linking their lives, they do not think at all and do not agree on what they will do in the event of a divorce. Therefore, the breakup of relationships for them is a tragedy with insults, infidelities and accusations, and not one of the options for continuing life.
What's wrong with not trusting anyone ? This, in my opinion, is normal for an adequate person living among liars and hypocrites.
There is no need to do anything about it, unless, of course, your distrust does not prevent you from communicating with people/getting acquainted. If it interferes, then communicate on those topics that most people know, or that you would NOT want to hide. But maybe you want to talk to someone on personal topics, but because of your phobia, so to speak, you are afraid. Then you will have to take a risk, or go to a psychologist who will listen to you. Usually, in such cases, rational thinking helps in order to choose less unreliable people, judging by your subjective opinion.�
And best of all, learn to live alone. You will worry less about trifles and spend more time on worthy things.
My deep conviction is that you need to stop being afraid of this, try to imagine the feeling of disappointment from deception is not the worst nightmare, and set a philosophical attitude in advance, as if, in the depths of your soul, you are morally prepared for it.
After all, isn't living in constant distrust and fear of being betrayed a much bigger nuisance?