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  1. Complexes are doubts.It is not so easy to survive among people, let alone live and feel protected.The feeling that everyone is trying to instill uncertainty and fear in you since childhood.Everything is simple.The greatest fear is the fear of death,and we will all die.Nothing to fear from the inevitable, nothing to blame yourself for what you've done, and half your life to kill for remorse or dissatisfaction with yourself.Just live every day, trying to be at least a little bit happy.It doesn't matter if you're pretty or not,smart or a little slow,everyone has the same problems.Live and fish out some joy, otherwise life will turn into a catch-up game.And you don't need to run “for”, you need to meet them halfway.

  2. Complexes are instilled in us from the outside to make it easier to manipulate us…

    It is very difficult for a self-sufficient person with adequate self-esteem to introduce into his head about 90% of the existing stereotypes of thinking and behavior, in order for him to become more malleable, it is necessary to criticize him and pay attention to his shortcomings, not his advantages.

    It is very easy to fight – compare yourself only with yourself yesterday and do not try to please others.

    In response to a suggestion or request, take a break and ask yourself-why do you want to answer “yes”? The only real motive is your desire to do it. If there is a fear or desire to please someone, not to offend, etc. – feel free to say “no”…

    Love and accept yourself as you are, with all the nuances, it will help to apply the same way to others. If you really love a person – you will not have the desire to manipulate them – you will not humiliate and criticize them, raise their complexes. Expect the same attitude to yourself :-))))

  3. Complexes always have a social basis. Let me explain.

    All of us are social beings (even the most hardened introverts), we need support, support, and the views of other people. Complete exclusion from society leads to psychological problems, including mental disorders. For example, in Nazi Germany, there was a tendency to take away a newborn child from the mother for their further upbringing within the party, creating identical human stamps with blonde hair and eyes, as healthy as possible physically and morally. But the result was quite deplorable: many children who were separated from their mothers at such an early period later showed signs of mental disorders and disorders. The most terrible thing, a teacher once told us at one of the lectures, is when the children's waiting room is deathly silent: not a single child's cry is heard. This means that even at such a small stage, the child is torn out of society, has no hope that they will come to him, take care of him. Try to imagine his future life, if at the age of six months he lost hope for a good attitude towards himself and others.

    As we get older, we become more and more involved in social relationships. In childhood and adolescence, we encounter previously unknown social rules, hierarchies in groups, we learn what is “possible” and what is “impossible”, what is” good “and what is”bad”. The categories of “good” and “bad” are still defined at the public level. These are the same rules of conduct that hold us back in our actions. “You can't hit a girl, you're bad, behave properly!”, – the mother shouts at the boy, seeing how he raises his hand over the little girlfriend, trying to take away his toy. “You'll do a bad thing if you hide the truth from her,” the friend shakes his head as he listens to the story of how his friend cheated on his girlfriend. But in addition to “good” and “bad,” there are many other categories that many representatives of different movements are currently struggling with. “You're too fat.” “You have a crooked nose.” “You've got a lot of pimples, ugh, it's awful.” These are the same categories from which a person gets knocked out when faced with the propaganda of perfect bodies, rich clothes, a lot of “friends”, languid looks from under false eyelashes, pumped-up muscles… Such a person. Here he is just like this by himself: with imperfect hands, with acne, with his fears and prejudices. And how can he behave, how can he defend himself, seeing that he is “worse”, he is “not like that”, he is “unworthy”? It is impossible to reject public opinion in 100% of cases, especially in early adolescence, when a teenager does not know who he is, what his place is among others, what he is capable of. And he projects everything on himself. On your body, on your behavior, on your world. He accepts the opinion of others, agrees with it, saying to himself: “Yes! I'm terrible. I'm fat, I'm too scared, I can't talk, I'm stupid!”. And here it is. The complex. Something that a person will then have a long, stubborn, angry struggle with, because, as I said, the social side is our nature, it is not so easy to pick it out from under the crust.

    And my advice now for dealing with them is: love yourself and others. We're all different. We're all perfect. Each for himself or for an important other. With crooked noses, small bellies and facial problems. Be careful with each other and do not create problems for each other, but we do not live in the most ideal world.

    Good luck and all the best.

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