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  1. Well, self-esteem is a very subjective concept. So these people themselves are most likely sure that their self-esteem is super-adequate:)

    But seriously, if a person is not particularly cute and not particularly smart-this is not a prerequisite for having low self-esteem. Let me explain: you can talk for a long time about what is cute-unsympathetic, but this is not the main thing if there is also “not particularly smart”. For: the lower the intelligence (respectively, the lower the ability to introspect and self-criticism), the higher the opinion about yourself; exceptions are found, but they are rare. This fact, by the way, is the basis for the Dunning-Kruger effect, so often recalled in recent years.

    To be fair, it is worth noting that in addition to the fact that evaluating someone else's self – esteem is a complex matter (there is always a risk of something being underestimated, falling into taste, or making incorrect conclusions on a small material), it (i.e., self-esteem) is also not a constant value. For the same person at different periods of his life / as a result of the influence of different circumstances / in different environments, self-esteem can very much “jump” – both up and down.

    And it may also be that a clearly inflated self-esteem, which a person willingly demonstrates to everyone around, in reality is an attempt to compensate for low self-esteem.

  2. You answered it yourself.

    Lack of intelligence as a replacement therapy uses inflated inadequate self-esteem.

    But don't be deceived by the arrogant person's behavior: he is all trembling inside and afraid that someone will notice how weak he is.

    This is very similar to the behavior of the European Union at the present time: they scare themselves so that others will not think that they are afraid… And that they would think that they are fearless and strong.

    But a healthy person does not remember about his health until he gets sick. Similarly, a confident person will not demonstrate his strength to others for complacency, and a=a person with adequate self-esteem is equally calmly able to accept both criticism and praise. And neither one nor the other does not take it out of balance and adequacy

  3. One of the reasons is parenting. As a child, my parents and grandparents were immensely pampered, allowed everything, and did not set any limits at all. Or they tried, but in the end they gave what they themselves forbade.

  4. It is likely that just because of a small mind. Well, about the likability of a person, let's put it aside. But “not very smart”, that's the topic )))

    In the course of my life, I've seen a lot of people with similar traits. Different people. And not always-good ones. And even-and bad, because with high self-esteem and not smart people are always bad in life.

    I try to be self-critical so that I don't think too highly of myself. But not everyone does that. On the contrary, they think too highly of themselves and are not going to work on themselves.

    But everyone chooses their own path. I chose my own, and I don't regret it.

  5. To assess yourself sensibly, you need to make a mental effort, and if the mind of the described type of people is not particularly there, then what is surprising? In general, it can only seem from the outside that this is an inflated self-esteem, but in fact a person is trying to assert himself because of terrible complexes.

  6. 1. Option Kin supported and he has a very high self-esteem

    2. Option He was pampered and allowed everything not without any framework

    3. The option is not beautiful and not smart can be strong and just for the strength of high Self-esteem

  7. reduced tendency to reflect. charismatic and highly appreciated by the environment. consequence of upbringing. this is due to internal reasons

    incorrect assessment of them as” not particularly cute “and” not particularly smart ” by you personally. this is from external sources

    finally, a false impression, acting, covering up weak points and the actual state of affairs-this is if we assume that high self-esteem is present only in words

    choose what you like. it can be combined in any ratio. look very carefully for your own incorrect assessment in the verdict, because mistakes are sometimes expensive

  8. And what, people who do not meet your or the generally accepted canons of “beauty” and “intelligence” should live with very low self-esteem, keep a low profile, give up their legitimate achievements, humiliate and hate themselves, maybe even live in a ghetto? Go around in black and constantly cry from your own inferiority? I think they just love themselves sincerely – there are a lot of us, people, and we are all different, why adapt to a standard that someone doesn't understand? You can just live the way you like, and not in an endless race, why the constant excitement and worry?

    I think the question arose because you find flaws in yourself and constantly compare yourself with others, carefully looking for flaws in them. If you try not to do this (it is difficult, it is still difficult for me), then life will become more pleasant: if you consider a person beautiful in his uniqueness, you will soon realize that you are not inferior at all and are unique and beautiful yourself, and if you consider a person stupid and ugly, but you will see how happy he is,you will

  9. From the logical error with which you started your reasoning.

    So, let's look at the issue in detail.

    Given – a certain person who, according to your value judgment, has low intelligence and unattractive appearance, evaluates himself higher than you evaluate him. Why?

    Because:

    a) your value judgment is not necessarily correct. It is not an objective fact at all, it is simply a value judgment.

    b) there is no objective scale of “smartness” and “likability”, which means you can't measure these indicators quantitatively and compare people with each other on them.

    c) the degree of “smartness” and “beauty” are not the only values of the individual, the individual may have other advantages for which it can be evaluated highly.

    Thus, we conclude that neither “stupidity” nor “unsympatheism” is actually inherent in people, but exists only in the mind of the evaluator, the VERY assessment of people also exists in the heads of the evaluators (that is, in their heads. Thus, their self-esteem came from exactly the same place as your opinion that they are not smart and not cute came from.

  10. I believe that this comes from the self-perception of a person and this is very important!In many ways, this has its roots in childhood when parents or friends talked about their pleasant appearance, therefore it programmed a person for such self-esteem.

  11. High self-esteem is better than low, and even better – adequate)))

    Who determines the degree of likability and intelligence, and by what criteria?

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