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  1. Because giving advice (as well as teaching others) is either a talent from God or the hard work of a specialist who has completed long-term training and then practice in first-graders. And even for such a path, you need talent.

    Therefore, experienced and “successful consultants” know these rules::

    #1-Don't give advice without asking!

    #4 don't say what you want to say, but say what your ward needs to say.

    #11 don't demand quick execution of your advice and don't remind them to wait until your ward matures and wants to do it.

    #12 do not expect gratitude and do not remind yourself of your merits: “I told you so.” The best result is achieved when a person is sure that this is his idea and he himself came up with it and implemented it. How Stirlitz “helped” Schelenberg.

  2. A person equates advice with criticism, since the very presence of advice speaks about irrational behavior of a person, (the person who does everything correctly is not advised anything, he knows everything himself) which stings him and provokes him to prove otherwise by ignoring the advice, thereby denying its necessity.

    To avoid this, they bend down to instill in the person the ideas that underlie the rationalization solution (ideas that say why the advice is good), so that the person himself gradually comes to the appropriate conclusions and is not taken aback when faced with the fact of their existence.

  3. Much depends on the Expert Advisor's authority.
    It is quite normal that first of all, after receiving advice, a person asks the adviser a mental question: “Who are you anyway? And why in your fright do you think you're knowledgeable enough in the field to even dare to give me advice?”

    Then it starts evaluating the Expert Advisor. And if the adviser does not impress him, he will ignore the advice (this is at best, at worst he will stupidly send it to the pedestrian erotic). Also, even if the adviser has knowledge, but gives advice in the wrong direction – the reaction will be the same.

    It's like with some parents who have not achieved anything, but begin to give their “most valuable” advice on how to live… and they also manage to be surprised that they did not rest on the kui for the child, I apologize for the expression, and he will not follow them.

    PS And this does not affect elementary education, because normal people, seeing someone's problems, first ask “excuse me, can I help you?”. And only after an affirmative answer, they give out tips.

  4. I believe that depends on the character . I, for example, will never follow the advice right away , I will first analyze it, and if there is really something worthwhile, I will do it on the sly )) But this is bad, I know

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