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  1. To all that has been said, I would like to add that mass (and classical) culture quite actively pedals the theme of exclusivity – favorites, superheroes, just heroes, princesses, geniuses, and so on. And the cultural environment itself has become very dense and most people are somehow involved in it and grow up on stories about ” amazing fighters against evil and incredible beauties born according to the prophecy.�

    This is understandable, because the plot needs to be built from something, and besides, each person is really unique. It is simply important to have a reasonable balance between a sense of uniqueness and a more or less sound assessment of your qualities and achievements.

  2. This idea is very well sold by marketers to millennials (born 1984-2003). The previous generation “X” born 1964-1983 (and even more so the previous ones) he doesn't believe in it too much, but he's not too eager to convince anyone of it, either.

    So why are millennials so sensitive to this idea? The question is not in the field of personality psychology, or even in the field of social psychology. This is an ideological issue, and is directly related to the strengthening of liberal and libertarian views on the planet as a whole after the end of the cold war.

    If you put the rights and freedoms of the individual at the forefront, you can start with yourself, this is quite logical. Your rights and freedoms, your “self” is a reference point; a unique “zero kilometer”; the initial intersection of the coordinate lines in which you define other people.

    In the 1990s, other ideological trends began to actively develop, but this is not about them now. They will mainly affect the emerging generation of homelanders (born in 2003). Marketers have not yet decided what exactly they will sell them))

  3. First of all, in a sense, each of us is really different. There must be some differences. So there is a biological basis for this approach:)

    Secondly, there are more and more people on the planet, technical capabilities allow you to share information about yourself and your achievements with amazing speed, people have the opportunity to compare themselves with others much more often than a few decades ago. Willy-nilly, against this background, you want to stand out, prove to yourself and others that you really ARE.

    Third, as other authors have already written about it, if a person is encouraged to “stand out”, he buys more-goods , services, ideas. Therefore, this is beneficial for those who sell it all, and much will be done to further stimulate sales.

    It seems to me that it is not bad when a person thinks that he is special and not like everyone else – if this “specialness” really changes something for the better in his life and the lives of those who are close to him. It is worse when there is a lot of effort, time and money are spent without measure, and the benefits of this – to anyone but marketers and sellers.

    I wrote about this in more detail here and here.

  4. This is happening not only in our time, it has happened before and will continue to happen in the future.

    The basis for this is the real differences between one person and another and the differences instilled by parents.

    Each of us is an unconditional person with his own set of qualities that are not repeated in the same set in other people.

    This is fine and does not cause disrespect to other people, because a Person understands that others are not like him and this can be used for collective work.

    But parental ” fun ” with the conviction of a little Man that he is not like everyone else, he is better, higher, more literate, more unique than others and “certainly” deserves more than others.

    But this is extremely bad, because it creates pride, vanity, envy and other human diseases that prevent not only others from living, but also himself.

    So on the one hand, it's cool – WE are DIFFERENT, but on the other hand, it's extremely bad – I'M THE BEST.

  5. Such a train of thought-was, is and will be-in all countries and times.


    “everyone in our time began to think that he is special and not like everyone else” –

    you can use both positive and negative meanings:

    1. Positive healthy meaning – “I can and should solve the negative problems of life”. This is rarely observed.

    2. Negative unhealthy meaning – “I have the right to much more and better than everyone else-because I am Special.” This is not uncommon.

  6. Because from his point of view, it is. If he was like everyone else, he would feel good when people around him feel good, and it would be bad when people around him feel bad. But in my experience, this is often not the case.

    He is just like everyone else, just for you, from the outside, and without much sensitivity to what he thinks, feels, and does.

    If the question you ask turns out to be good or bad for you – that is, if you start forcing yourself to do the same things as those around you, to feel the same things, to think the same things, which I assure you is possible – then you will immediately find out that you are different from those around you.

    It is clear, only in some cases – but the only serious difference that is ignored is enough to agree with everyone once and for all.

  7. Not everyone, very many, on the contrary, can not distinguish themselves from the general crowd of people. There are a lot of people who devalue themselves and consider themselves incapable, unworthy of anything, and so on…

    Therefore, if a person sees himself as special, it's not so bad, the question is what he will do with his uniqueness)))

  8. Read the classics. Every thinking person is a whole world. Each of us is unique. This was thought before, but there were times when they were afraid to show their differences. Everyone is born with talents, but not everyone develops them. We are all special, we are all individuals. You can be proud of that.

  9. A person is an idea. An idea can only exist in the background where it stands out. Poor versus rich, greedy versus generous. We all want to stand out.

  10. The answer is obvious – there are no moral values!

    The laws in the country are not observed by anyone!

    Zero liability!

    Observe the society, every unit of it. And then ask a deeper question. The one that will arise as a result of observations. I wish you peace and joy of being!

  11. If we talk about the “applied” use of the” features and individuality ” of a person by the person himself, then this is what I think. Well, there is nothing to think about here: “the goat understands” all people are individuals. Everyone has their own head “on their shoulders” and “everyone goes crazy in their own way”. Yes, we all look, besides, in different ways, except for the twins from the same cell))) The main thing is who and how is aware of this individuality and where it is directed and how it is used and what it has from it! Because a person can and is given a lot from birth-but “what” he will turn it all, i.e. himself… My grandmother, when I waved her off, said to me: grandmother, I know everything! she answered me: you know, but you don't do it….We are all special…. Only here, when you move a small bone in the human skeleton from one place to another, it is unlikely that our life will be more comfortable… Inconvenience will be 100%. So our individuality will be either a help or a doom in life. The best thing, I think, is to be just a Reasonable Person with a Good soul – from this, for sure, you will not “lose”. And, this question: “what will I get out of this and how will it all end for me” – you should always ask yourself, i.e.: think and know the consequences of all your actions and be prepared to answer for it. That's why the saying goes: measure 7 times – cut 1 time. And, in my opinion, only individuals who are not harmonious and mature can” invent and imagine “themselves as” extraordinary “in front of others,” expose or present ” themselves as such. A harmonious personality will not prove anything to anyone and, of course, will not stick out for show, i.e. declare its exclusivity.

  12. This idea was laid down in our childhood, it helps us to do great things. If a person does not consider himself special, then he will have nothing to say, and why do anything when so much has been discovered and studied. What you can create if you think others are better than you are. But many great people were just children themselves. But they had ideas, goals, and talents.

  13. Selfishness. With each new generation, the amount of selfishness grows and expands. As it is, yes. All of us are really very special and not like everyone else. Who are they all? That's the question.

  14. That's what people have always thought. Each person is really unique and only partially similar to the rest. Everything is unique in each case – fingerprints, irises, etc., etc.It has become easier to implement this idea. Especially if you have money or access to credit. But to portray the whole picture of the world, to understand the Creator's plan, to understand his place, role and task in this plan, to establish a dynamic balance with the world around him and thereby build the Kingdom of Heaven within himself … – everything is also difficult and not everyone can do it.

  15. Based on my understanding of the structure and function of the universe, I answer.
    Each person is truly a unique individual. Not like any other person. Moreover, each person is not like himself – adequate or not adequate to the current situation of being. To a large extent, this is determined by personal worldview, operational assessment of the situation of being emotionally and sensually, as well as basic automatism of reflexes and basic motivation by instincts. The predominance of initiative (extraversion), or reporting (introversion). Plus your health status.
    This fits into the algorithm of a Universal Matrix of 6 types in 5 evolutionary stages in each of a certain set of evolutionary periods. This algorithm was shown in the general classification of consonant and vowel sounds – signs of speech-thinking.
    It remains to correctly designate auxiliary cells, groups of cell types according to their correspondence in psycho-sociology and in the physiology of speech-thinking.

  16. It is no less important for a person than to be, and to appear. Morality, image, and all means are used to strengthen self-identity. What color hair doesn't homo sapiens have?

  17. Here they say that the question itself already contains the answer. Because everyone is different and different. I took that from your question. How do you know what he thinks about yourself each? I don't think I'm anything special. Another thing is that “we are so different, that's why we are beautiful.” I generally consider people with extraordinary abilities to be “special”. For example, a person's gaze can disperse the clouds. Or instant memorization of difficult numbers. Or the ability to make a diagnosis from a photograph. You can list for a long time, it's easier to look at the Guinness Book of Records. There are really unique people there. And so, no matter how much you think that you are special, you still need to prove it. By your deeds, actions, and attitude towards people. And you can think anything you want. No one forbade it.

  18. The uniqueness of a person is that he was able to be born and learn most of his vocation, and everything else is no longer his merit, but the “conditions of the task” that is the start in his further development

  19. Because every person is truly unique, as well as every tree in the forest and every stone on the road. In fact, this uniqueness does not carry anything sacred in itself. And very few people appreciate it at all or realize it, or further, if they do, they find what to do with it.

  20. Because the postulates of modern religion-liberalism-are being pumped out of all the mass media with terrible force. The main one is selfishness, “love yourself”, in one form or another, dozens of times a day. This is how egocentric consciousness is formed, where knowledge is replaced by self-conceit.

  21. As we learn to distinguish between the details and minutiae of our Self, we come to understand that I am not like everyone else. And as we learn to distinguish between the small things and details of others (others) I, we come to understand that everyone is unique, everyone is special.

  22. “Not like everyone else” was always there. But under the USSR, propaganda (and after it, party cells and public opinion) promoted the idea that being different is breaking away from the collective, which means there is heresy, evil, and sabotage.
    Then collectivism ceased to be promoted as something good, and mass culture began to promote individualism.
    Within the framework of individualism, being different is good, useful, and even fashionable. And where it's fashionable, it's also in fashion.

    There is another facet.
    Sometimes “not like everyone else” is a veiled “how I hate this gray mass”. A normal protest mood, suitable for teenage maximalism, and just as a reaction to all sorts of problems with socialization.

  23. Because in modern society, it is really possible to become a unique person with unique interests, worldview, and so on. This is especially true in the post-Soviet space, where for decades entire generations have been forced into a rigid unified framework that suppresses all individuality.

  24. Because there was a choice and with it the opportunity to talk about it! So they began to think))) We didn't say it before. Everyone was almost the same (income, rhythm and lifestyle, sources of information, food, recreation, clothing, morals, etc.). however, it should not come into serious conflict with respect and good manners.

  25. Sorry for the unspoken answer, but what's wrong with a person thinking that way? That he is aware of himself as a person, that he believes that, perhaps, he can contribute something of his own to the world? Such people most often achieve something in life, do not sit still and do something. No, of course, there are just dreamers who have their heads in the clouds, and that's enough for them, they just make a plan, not trying to fulfill it.

    If we talk about “no such thing”: in 2012-13, it was very fashionable to listen to rock music. It made you a kind of elite. But in fact, we all understand that your favorite genre did not rank you among the highest grades. And in general, let's judge a person by other, more significant criteria. And, I think, don't judge fashion and the mainstream, because it's not always something bad. I'm off topic, though…

    In general, I want to say that there have always been such people about whom you ask a question. And this is not bad, as for me, but very good. After all, such people move our society, our world forward.

  26. Because it is? Each person is somewhat unique, at least in appearance. So I don't see anything wrong with it. Let them think what they want…

  27. We all, especially in our teenage years, feel that we are absolutely unique individuals, unlike anyone else around us. In the process of individualization, this feeling is reinforced.

    There is some truth in this statement. Each person is an individual. He is unlike anyone else in the world, because he is a unique combination of genes, raised in a certain environment.�

    But still, do not be conceited and consider yourself completely innocent of the human race. No matter how different we are, we all have something in common.

    And in general, there is a clear paradox: declaring that you are not like everyone else, you only prove the opposite.

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